You 100% did the right thing. He obviously had planned to fuck you while you stayed there. Creepy. It's not even like he made a declaration of love - he just said sexual stuff. That's disappointing and it sours the whole friendship. You can't unhear those things. And yeah, as you say, you were married at the time so that makes it 10 times worse. He's basically saying "hey, why don't you cheat on your husband with me because I fancy you?". That's not what friends do.
He was my friend, and I loved him like a brother, I'd gladly have taken a bullet for him, but I wouldn't sleep with him if he were the last man on Earth!
Once again I really, and truly appreciate your response, because I don't think there's anything outlandish about what I've said, and done, but there are so many stupid men who get resentful toward me about that friendship I let go of so long ago. They basically project all their bad experiences about being friendzoned onto me for whatever selfish, and pathetic reason. I have been friendzoned in my life, and it's never hurt or angered me, because I've always recognized that other people have a right to say no to me, or anyone else for whatever reason they so choose. Sure it hurts to be rejected, but if I can't get over it then I have to just walk away from the friendship instead wasting my life pining for someone who doesn't want me anyway. Part of respecting one's own self is learning to respect other people.
Once again thanks for your healthy, and robust response.
I really like a guy as a friend but he's single and likes me?
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You 100% did the right thing. He obviously had planned to fuck you while you stayed there. Creepy. It's not even like he made a declaration of love - he just said sexual stuff. That's disappointing and it sours the whole friendship. You can't unhear those things. And yeah, as you say, you were married at the time so that makes it 10 times worse. He's basically saying "hey, why don't you cheat on your husband with me because I fancy you?". That's not what friends do.
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He was my friend, and I loved him like a brother, I'd gladly have taken a bullet for him, but I wouldn't sleep with him if he were the last man on Earth!
Once again I really, and truly appreciate your response, because I don't think there's anything outlandish about what I've said, and done, but there are so many stupid men who get resentful toward me about that friendship I let go of so long ago. They basically project all their bad experiences about being friendzoned onto me for whatever selfish, and pathetic reason. I have been friendzoned in my life, and it's never hurt or angered me, because I've always recognized that other people have a right to say no to me, or anyone else for whatever reason they so choose. Sure it hurts to be rejected, but if I can't get over it then I have to just walk away from the friendship instead wasting my life pining for someone who doesn't want me anyway. Part of respecting one's own self is learning to respect other people.
Once again thanks for your healthy, and robust response.