I really do want my wife to feel another man for me to know part 1

pretty much the usual scenario - but with a twist - you see i am 40 years married with five kids all grown up. Happy marriage, well if truth be known we probably did not agree to separate at the same instant and most likely stuck at it for kids and self pride, that would go for both of us although my wife would never admit that. We have not had sex fully for around 12 years and that means with me she has been starved or disinterested since 48 years of age she is now a sexy [i mean that] 59yo with great figure. for the fifteen years before that 12 i got carnal pleasures less than 1 per month so it has been pretty much a sexless marriage for 28 years. Now a month before we wed my wife was 18 and i was 23 she worked as i did and i would sometimes go and meet her coming out of work. Quite often I would get to were she worked only to be told - she gone she got a lift - shit i had to get the bus back from were i came. One night i was on the bus and going to meet her and one of her work colleagues was on the same bus she chatted and asked me were i was headed i said to meet K.... coming out of work. she gave a funny look and said "you still together then?" it did not click for me but i just said "yes sure we are" i thought nothing more of it - but i missed her again tha same night and had to trudge home to her Sister in laws were she stayed. We seemed ok i never enquired about stuff we were young and i was in love and enjoying life, we did not have great sex and i had no experience at all. Although she did not say it at the time K..... had much more than me even though younger. The wedding day was getting closer - my family already said that none of them would be coming because my mother said K..... was not good enough and she seemed shiftty yeah [but i loved my parents] but i was gonna go ahead.

Antway a couple of weeks after the bus trip with her colleague i was again going to meet K... from work and as it happened I arrived early and was standing outside the shop when i could see all the guys and girls coming down the stairs one of my GF friends seen me and literally went white and turned and shouted up the stairs to tell K.... i was outside. K.... came runnig nout first passing everyone on the stairs took my arm and sped me away chatting quickly about how come i got here so quick and she seemed happy to see me. Did i smell a rat ..... well no not really she was extra nice that night though. I continued my journeys every so often to meet K.... from work and on one occasion i arrived just as i caught sight of her getting into a car near the shop she worked in, one of her colleagues seen me again but did not spot that I had seen K.... or that she got into a car - this co worker came over and said oh you missed her she was offered a lift by Elaine; well that did spike me because unless Elaine had lost a bit of hair, grown 8 inches and wore men's trousers i was sure it was a guys car that K... had gotten into. Whatever I did not get worked up because i had to get the bus home [and before anyone says in those days we had no mobile phones or such things]. I did not go to K.... sis in laws that night and instead went to my own flat and chatted with my flat mates - one of them said its odd that her mate said it was a girl giving her a lift than it turns out to be a guy, who is the guy does he work with her - i did not know so left it.

a few days goes by K.... says she found out i had missed her again but does not say who gave er the lift and that sort of made me wonder should i say something. Rather than question her i made sure that two days later ni got there early again but this time no one seen me and so i stood as normal outside the shop but my view was blocked by a vehicle cleaning the shop signs and so people inside could not see me. when people started to come downstairs i moved slightly and saw K.... coming downstairs chatting to the guy who gave her a lift the other evening. She did sort of look over to the shop doorway to see i thought if I was there but then went the opposite way following this guy to his car - now i was uncomfortable and started to walk over to the car but it was dark they did not see me and drove off. Now what normally happens is I get the bus meet her and we get bus back to her place. When i do not make it to the shop she meets me at the bus stop often on my return journey. This night I got a taxi so was back at the bus stop early in fact before K.... and i stayed at the corner near the bus stop out of sight. sure enough said guys car arrives and pulls around the corner from the bus stop and parks up obviously so they can see bus arriving which would be in about 20 minutes. Well in no time at all they were all over one another snogging each others faces off i could see easily that K... was up on her knees on the passenger seat writhing around and head going back and forth. her left breast was out of her coat and this guy had his hands inside her knickers rubbing furiously - i went to step forward more but they had seen the bus approaching and got themselves together. I got to the car just as she was getting out and that surprised her she jumped and said "Gosh you got from the bus stop quickly" - i was cool "who's car?" "oh its Dave the warehouse guy he seen me waiting in the car park and he was late in leaving and asked if I wanted a lift because I couldn't see you thought you were not coming" - i chewed those words for a long time - my stomach was tight like i had either over eaten or was going to be incredibly sick - we walked home and it was small talk. I went home and confided in one of my closest pals " he always spoke as he seen it" "dump the bitch, you cannot ignore this it will haunt you the rest of your days"; I said I would confront her the next night. I actually did collect her from work and sat her down and told her what I knew - she started to cry she said it was a one off - i told her i knew it was not and wanted to know just how far this had gone - it turns out the guy was married with two kids a nice dutiful wife and he was 41 years old. Today we might class it as grooming of a young woman but then he was a sweet talking calculating pervert [in my eyes] in K.... eyes he appeared to be a kind, generous guy who paid her compliments every morning telling her how awesome she was and bringing in gifts like something for lunch etc. - yes but what about all the lifts - what about what i saw you two doing in the car - well i got some of the blame for not talking to her romantically, not having a car and not getting there on time to meet her [women are amazing at simplifying stuff eh!].