If you really were a weed-smoker, then you would know that people who like weed don't like people who "disapprove" of it rubbing their self-righteous lifestyles in their faces. Could this be the reason they don't call you anymore? I don't know for sure because we only get to read your perspective and not theirs, but it's a good guess. I guess it doesn't really matter anymore (your reasons for ditching them) because you will never be friends with them again.
Sounds like it's your lifestyle and your attitude that has made you too cool for school. I'm not saying that you chose the wrong lifestyle either - you did what you need to do for you and that is the best thing you could do (Good on you!).
What I think is silly is that you think that you are doomed to be friendless because you spent your first years with a group of friends you no longer associate with. That's just a stupid assumption because you can EASILY be friendly and make new friends even in your 3rd and 4th years - and the rest of your life. It just depends on you (not on other people).
Oh... And I have one more thing to add (I know, I write too much):
I am a university student too. I smoke weed every day. I have a 3.8 GPA. I make friends with many different people: pot-smokers and non-pot-smokers alike. Because I find it pretty easy to manage, I think that it is your attitude that holds you back and not your past friendships.
I really don't think it's my attitude,but you're entitled to your opinion about the matter. You also need to realize that not everyone is as smart as you, so I'm not able to smoke marijuana and maintain a 3.8 GPA. Good for you, but I'm not you so please realize that when you make your assumptions.
I don't think I'm doomed to be friendless, its just that I was so used to hanging out with these people everyday for the past two years of my life (its sort of like high school, then you have to transition into college). Well, for me this is my second time needing to transition in college, and I'm not too happy about it because I was so used to be surrounded by people.
Obviously, and hopefully, I will not be alone for the rest of my experience in college; it just sucks to have to adapt to an entirely different lifestyle than the people around you. Yeah, I may be a little self-righteous, or selfish to be more correct in that, but if I am not at least a little selfish then I will end up a bum, because I'm not a pot-head with a 3.8 GPA and neither were my friends.
Also, your ability to smoke pot and maintain a healthy GPA reflects your other abilities to maintain friendships with other people. From this thinking it can be seen that this relationship does not apply to me.
As far as "rubbing my self-righteous lifestyle in their faces" goes, I don't and didn't. As soon as I told them I quit smoking pot for good, the phone calls stopped and so did the visits, too. As for me visiting them, I did and every time they were smoking, and I would get tempted to smoke myself but didn't. So, there is some fault on my part for the estrangement, too. After a while they realized I was serious, and I guess just stopped bothering with me. But, I don't really blame them or myself, since I finally realized that the only real connection we had was the marijuana and that's all; so if the marijuana was the only connection, then I didn't really feel any other incentive to stay in connection, same conclusion they probably came to.
It's probably confusing to you or not conceivable because you smoke pot. Pot smokers associate with their habit a sense of spirituality that blinds their connections with others -- that is, they don't realize until all the smoke is gone that what really binds them together is the marijuana and the high-talk attributed to it. You feel like you belong, but can you really see yourself smoking pot with these people for the rest of your life? Do you really think the group comes first or does the cohesion of the group depend on the marijuana and its effects?
I don't think marijuana is bad or good, I think it is just not for a person like me and I hope people like you and my friends understand this.
I quit smoking marijuana and now it seems like I have no more friends
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If you really were a weed-smoker, then you would know that people who like weed don't like people who "disapprove" of it rubbing their self-righteous lifestyles in their faces. Could this be the reason they don't call you anymore? I don't know for sure because we only get to read your perspective and not theirs, but it's a good guess. I guess it doesn't really matter anymore (your reasons for ditching them) because you will never be friends with them again.
Sounds like it's your lifestyle and your attitude that has made you too cool for school. I'm not saying that you chose the wrong lifestyle either - you did what you need to do for you and that is the best thing you could do (Good on you!).
What I think is silly is that you think that you are doomed to be friendless because you spent your first years with a group of friends you no longer associate with. That's just a stupid assumption because you can EASILY be friendly and make new friends even in your 3rd and 4th years - and the rest of your life. It just depends on you (not on other people).
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Oh... And I have one more thing to add (I know, I write too much):
I am a university student too. I smoke weed every day. I have a 3.8 GPA. I make friends with many different people: pot-smokers and non-pot-smokers alike. Because I find it pretty easy to manage, I think that it is your attitude that holds you back and not your past friendships.
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I really don't think it's my attitude,but you're entitled to your opinion about the matter. You also need to realize that not everyone is as smart as you, so I'm not able to smoke marijuana and maintain a 3.8 GPA. Good for you, but I'm not you so please realize that when you make your assumptions.
I don't think I'm doomed to be friendless, its just that I was so used to hanging out with these people everyday for the past two years of my life (its sort of like high school, then you have to transition into college). Well, for me this is my second time needing to transition in college, and I'm not too happy about it because I was so used to be surrounded by people.
Obviously, and hopefully, I will not be alone for the rest of my experience in college; it just sucks to have to adapt to an entirely different lifestyle than the people around you. Yeah, I may be a little self-righteous, or selfish to be more correct in that, but if I am not at least a little selfish then I will end up a bum, because I'm not a pot-head with a 3.8 GPA and neither were my friends.
Also, your ability to smoke pot and maintain a healthy GPA reflects your other abilities to maintain friendships with other people. From this thinking it can be seen that this relationship does not apply to me.
As far as "rubbing my self-righteous lifestyle in their faces" goes, I don't and didn't. As soon as I told them I quit smoking pot for good, the phone calls stopped and so did the visits, too. As for me visiting them, I did and every time they were smoking, and I would get tempted to smoke myself but didn't. So, there is some fault on my part for the estrangement, too. After a while they realized I was serious, and I guess just stopped bothering with me. But, I don't really blame them or myself, since I finally realized that the only real connection we had was the marijuana and that's all; so if the marijuana was the only connection, then I didn't really feel any other incentive to stay in connection, same conclusion they probably came to.
It's probably confusing to you or not conceivable because you smoke pot. Pot smokers associate with their habit a sense of spirituality that blinds their connections with others -- that is, they don't realize until all the smoke is gone that what really binds them together is the marijuana and the high-talk attributed to it. You feel like you belong, but can you really see yourself smoking pot with these people for the rest of your life? Do you really think the group comes first or does the cohesion of the group depend on the marijuana and its effects?
I don't think marijuana is bad or good, I think it is just not for a person like me and I hope people like you and my friends understand this.