I need to know how can i stop this

My father was never there for me growing up till recently when i turned 16 im 18 now. He always wants to know what I'm doing and where with who etc. He is always texting me saying he loves me and he would give his life for me. Yesterday he confessed that he dreams about everyday and he doesn't know what to do anymore he admits he's obsessed with me. It hurts me hearing that since I had a stepfather that had a obsession with me too. Idk whats happening I'm just scared and so hurt that I'm living through this again but this time with my father. It's not like I give them any reason to start feeling such way. I thought I had moved on with all this once my stepdad left but now my biological father is exactly the same. I was in depression for 2 years due to the chaos i would live with my stepfather and I'm scared I might fall back

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  • RoseIsabella

    Tell him to back the Hell off. Tell him that he's creeping you out, especially since he wasn't there for you when you were small, and that if he he loves you he'll respect your boundaries, back off and give you some damn small. Set a boundary with him, and if he doesn't respect it cut ties. You made it this far without him so you probably don't need him, at least not if he's gonna act like a weirdo.

    Also, I would love to know why he wasn't there for you when you were young. Was he in the throws of drug or alcohol addiction? Was he a sex addict who wasted valueable time and resources chasing skank-whores?

    I would highly recommend that you check out these two websites:
    http://www.adultchildren.org/
    http://coda.org/

    Please don't be afraid to set boundaries, and demand some respect. Deadbeat dads don't deserve respect.

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    • He wasn't around because he's married and has a family. He never has been into drugs/alcohol just your casual here and there drinker. Thats why it was even more of a surprise for me

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      • pimpjuicy

        If he wasn't your dad would you find him attractive?

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  • Handyman

    RoseIsabella is correct, just mention forwarding his text to someone for discussion. He must be stopped.

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  • Robinromy1998

    I totally agree on this with RoseIsabella.

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