Thank you for the reply.. It's good to see what a guy really think about my situation, I guess guys can understand what a guy does and why?!. You are right, right now i am in a unhappy relationship. But i want at least try not to give up. I am positive my boyfriend is not seeing other girls.( I live in a country where there still culture rule)You might find it stupid, but its the truth, and as a couple we do have a good physical relationship too( which i should have thought twice but what happened has happened) I know he is satisfied when it come to the sexual relationship.
The only problem is that i feel ignored and unloved at times by the way he behave when we are not together. when he come to see me, he is perfectly alright maybe expecting to have sex, but i don't make myself available to him all the time and he seem to be patient when I show the 'no' for it.After a while he leave my place or by the next day mostly he just turn out to be the ignorant person once again.
It's his friends i see as the cause of the problem. they just don't let him be alone and drag him to do things if he doesn't go, they would come to his place, and now he seem to be addicted to having fun all the times with the guys. It all started when one of his friend was proposed to marry my boyfriends sister. Since then that guy has been practically living at his place and since all friends are there, he just doesn't seem to find the time and space for me :( .. I just need to find a way to make him understand that he need to go back to who he was.. you are a guy, you might understand his situation!
Seriously everything you say sounds very familiar. I believe that your boyfriend has gotten complacent with you and his surroundings. You say that things are better when he is with you and you guys have a healthy sexual relationship, but when he goes out with his friends it gets bad.
He is a different person when he is not with you. It sounds like he is more comfortable with his friends and has more fun with them. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I'm just going with the info you gave me. I still think he cares about you, but his emotions are not sincere. I think he is just staying in this relationship because he's used to it.
You guys probably have the same routine every time you see each other. I don't think you should try and hold on to this relationship. It's detrimental to both of you be together if there is no communication and no happiness.
This is just my opinion and you don't have to listen to me. Every man is different and I could be wrong but one thing is clear, you are not happy and he is not happy. Both of you are just going through the motions.
You are reading my mind :( it is sad to admit it, but i still dont want to, not yet, i am not ready!! Thank you for your replies. It really helped me to think, I do see what you tell maybe true, but I'm just not ready to let go..sad but true
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Thank you for the reply.. It's good to see what a guy really think about my situation, I guess guys can understand what a guy does and why?!. You are right, right now i am in a unhappy relationship. But i want at least try not to give up. I am positive my boyfriend is not seeing other girls.( I live in a country where there still culture rule)You might find it stupid, but its the truth, and as a couple we do have a good physical relationship too( which i should have thought twice but what happened has happened) I know he is satisfied when it come to the sexual relationship.
The only problem is that i feel ignored and unloved at times by the way he behave when we are not together. when he come to see me, he is perfectly alright maybe expecting to have sex, but i don't make myself available to him all the time and he seem to be patient when I show the 'no' for it.After a while he leave my place or by the next day mostly he just turn out to be the ignorant person once again.
It's his friends i see as the cause of the problem. they just don't let him be alone and drag him to do things if he doesn't go, they would come to his place, and now he seem to be addicted to having fun all the times with the guys. It all started when one of his friend was proposed to marry my boyfriends sister. Since then that guy has been practically living at his place and since all friends are there, he just doesn't seem to find the time and space for me :( .. I just need to find a way to make him understand that he need to go back to who he was.. you are a guy, you might understand his situation!
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Seriously everything you say sounds very familiar. I believe that your boyfriend has gotten complacent with you and his surroundings. You say that things are better when he is with you and you guys have a healthy sexual relationship, but when he goes out with his friends it gets bad.
He is a different person when he is not with you. It sounds like he is more comfortable with his friends and has more fun with them. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I'm just going with the info you gave me. I still think he cares about you, but his emotions are not sincere. I think he is just staying in this relationship because he's used to it.
You guys probably have the same routine every time you see each other. I don't think you should try and hold on to this relationship. It's detrimental to both of you be together if there is no communication and no happiness.
This is just my opinion and you don't have to listen to me. Every man is different and I could be wrong but one thing is clear, you are not happy and he is not happy. Both of you are just going through the motions.
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You are reading my mind :( it is sad to admit it, but i still dont want to, not yet, i am not ready!! Thank you for your replies. It really helped me to think, I do see what you tell maybe true, but I'm just not ready to let go..sad but true