I need help improving my sexual sensitivity

77% Normal
36 Comments

So I think about sex a lot and feel horny almost all the time, but my it still takes so much work to get my cock hard and then to get off. Women I sleep with feel like they aren't attractive because I don't get hard and I hate to send the wrong message.

It's also very hard to orgasm with just vanilla sex. Seriously kinky shit gets me off easily in porn or in real life but most girls aren't into it. Vanilla sex just doesn't excite me as much as I wish it did. Is there anything I can do to remedy this? I have only masterbated a handful of times in the last few months and it was to pictures of my girlfriend, not kinky shit which was on purpose to try and not strengthen the association between kinky shit and pleasure.

Has anyone had problems like this before?

Voting Results
77% Normal
Based on 22 votes (17 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 36 )
  • CapriSun
    4 years ago

    I have the same problem, guys don’t get me off I can only get myself off. I’m insecure about it, you could see if you looked at my latest post. I’m into really really kinky shit and feel like I’m in the opposite situation as you. Can’t find a guy that eats pussy or genuinely wants to help make me cum. It’s torture

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Omg no I feel so bad. You can't find a guy who will eat you out? Man I live eating girls out!

      Seriously, it depresses me how many guys won't put forth a lit of effort to help their lady orgasm.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      2
      2
        -
      • CapriSun
        4 years ago

        It depresses me too lmao. That gives me hope tho

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        1
        1
          -
        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Yeah their out there somewhere.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
    • SunSnow
      4 years ago

      And I thought all guys like to eat pussy...
      Only thing my childhood dream is that.
      Ah it's true then not all guys good in bed.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • DIO
    4 years ago

    First it's masturbation.
    Second, be in the present moment. When you're with a girl, don't think of how you are doing or anything else. Just don't think. Be in the here and now. Focus on the pleasure you share. This should greatly help you.
    Also, are you taking any medication/drug or eating too much junk food?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Stop masterbating or masterbate more? I have done is so much in my life before but recently I have been doing it less because now I'm getting actual sex.

      I try to be present and feel in the moment and all that it's just harder because I feel nervous about my performance..

      I am taking a lot of supplements and also steroids which may have some effect and I do eat a lot of junk food but I am not very fat and also eat a lot of fruits, vegetables ect.

      Steroids can effect erectile function in some poeple but the problem here is that only kinky sex works. So if it was the steroids or diet than I would expect to have erectile issues during all sex.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • DIO
        4 years ago

        Not that, I mean it's MASTURBATING. I've been through this already. And no, urban dictionary is NOT a valid source. Masterbating is not an existing word. Or it's 2 words, master and bating. But it doesn't fit the context here.

        That aside, don't think about your performance. This will only led to stress and make you less efficient. Stress can definitely reduce your sex performances.

        It doesn't matter if you are fat or not. What you eat and use has a huge impact on your health and how your body hold up and reacts.
        Eat healty and stop using sterioids for 3 months. I GUARANTEE you that there will be a huge improvment.

        You could also use viagra but I wouldn't advise it for a young person.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          It's not the diet dude trust me. I have had healthier diets before and it wasn't any better.

          And it does matter if your fat or not, that's the main thing that matters in terms of how diet affects your health.

          Viagra is being considered although what's holding me back is more mental than physiological so it may not help that much.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • DIO
            4 years ago

            Nope. You can have a "regular" size and have a shitty diet that destroys your health. You obviously have problems if you are fat but you can also have problems if you aren't.

            Viagra is bad for the heart. Viagra gives you a boner, no matter what. So it will help. But I don't think it's a safe idea. You could also stop steroid, it is mostly the biggest factor here.

            You should try to talk about it to your doctor. Maybe he/she can help.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            1
            1
              -
            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Yes of course it's possible to be unhealthy from diet and not be fat, but that is not the case with me. Are you aware that I am going to college to become a PT? I know what I'm doing with my diet.

              Viagra does not in fact give you a boner no matter what. Some people need a bigger dose than others and you still need some form of arousal.

              I don't think you understand that I can get rock hard in 10 seconds if I want to, the problem is that regular real life sex isn't arousing enough. My body is capable of getting an erection easily, the problem is getting aroused enough. If I just watch kinky porn and never had sex I would have no erection issues at all and never would have bothered posting this.

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
  • McBean
    4 years ago

    Well, I must enable female naughtiness, because girls have pissed on me, tied me up, tortured me with ice cubes and hot wax, even loaded my penis with whip cream and sucked me off for dessert in the parking lot after a five star restaurant meal.

    After she is good and aroused, tell her that you surrender all sexual power to her. And, that you can never say no. As you see her inner bad girl emerging, let her know you are spellbound. Look innocently into her eyes. Make her feel all her own power.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Say what? Way to kink flex bro, but this isn't really helpful in the slightest.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • McBean
        4 years ago

        Thought you might like to break out of the plain vanilla world.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Bro, did you read the damn post? The whole idea is too much kinky stimulus making vanilla to boring which inhibits sexual function.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • McBean
            4 years ago

            So what? You're not a plain vanilla guy.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
              -
            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              No I'm not but I'm too horny to only have kinky sex because if I only have kinky sex, that is not enough sex.

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    I have the same issue but if I hold off from sex or jerking off for a few days it goes away. I just have trouble holding off for a few days.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      I mean yeah holding out helps up until a point. But even after two full days of nothing touching my dick, I still struggle.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • SunSnow
    4 years ago

    U need some boost up. Lifestyle changes diet exercise and eat chocolate.. make environment before sex.. also u may need to prepare before sex for few days to get back in track.

    Many girls won't be in kinky sex cuz they are shy. they need to be triggered to be kinky.
    Check her turn ons, foreplay, sensitive spots
    Sex is for two peoples so u need to think for ur mate too.
    I'm sure she'll be kinky.
    Good sex need some work.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Diet and exercise are good mate trust me. I'm 99.5% sure it's a psychological thing.

      I know more girls are kinky they just won't admit it, but how do I find out? What's the best way to ask them?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      1
      1
        -
      • SunSnow
        4 years ago

        Behavior and energy can tell.
        Ask the tricky kinky questions or random jokes meme on kink they'll give positive Negative response.
        There is always a perfect time when the female in her menstrual period she's more into kink and wildness. You can do a little research on net as well experiment on ur own.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Oooh joke about it. Good idear

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          1
          1