Sure, if you feel alright talking to him, go ahead! but if he never actually makes the effort to start the conversation, you're gonna end up feeling moody / sad .... eventually.
I guess that, as long as you dont' feel that way, keep doing it. But if the day arrives and you are tired of having to make all the effort, i'd suggest being honest.
sure, it will . would... be difficult, but you have nothing to lose! it's either being honest and maybe fixing everything up, or not saying anything and lose contact eventually.
so i'd just be like hey, i really like talking to you and i enjoy our chats, but i need to know if you enjoy them too, because i feel like i have to talk to you first all the time. i need a straight answer, and i won't blame you, but i feel silly otherwise...
just be sure you ask for a straight answer so he can't reply like he did the other day
well iunno that's what i would do
i'd be dead scared of the answer
but ive been in a similar situation where i didn't ask a question because i was too scared of the answer
and now, looking back at it, it was way worse. when i did know the answer, a year later, it hurt way more, if only i had asked back then, it would have saved so much trouble! iunno if that makes sense because im not giving you many details, but it was also about a guy... and i wasn't sure if he actually loved me! i should've asked, and not lie to myself for a whole year.... (it's not your case i know, but it's sort of similar)
I'll try that. Just gunna try and talk to him and if things get awkward I'll ask him outright if it's not the answer I want I'll just have to get over it and at least I'll know.
I wonder what sort of things I could ask. About his shyness and things?
Hey, sorry, i dont know if im too late. i've been busy.
how about you suggest playing games? like, random questions asked at each other, or the "you have to say a random fact about you that i dont know" ... so you get to know each other in a "easier" way?
Tried to show how I feel I asked if he'd met anyone else and he said he'd been hanging out with a friend from work but that's all it was.
I might ruin it but I'm going to tell him how I feel.
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Sure, if you feel alright talking to him, go ahead! but if he never actually makes the effort to start the conversation, you're gonna end up feeling moody / sad .... eventually.
I guess that, as long as you dont' feel that way, keep doing it. But if the day arrives and you are tired of having to make all the effort, i'd suggest being honest.
sure, it will . would... be difficult, but you have nothing to lose! it's either being honest and maybe fixing everything up, or not saying anything and lose contact eventually.
so i'd just be like hey, i really like talking to you and i enjoy our chats, but i need to know if you enjoy them too, because i feel like i have to talk to you first all the time. i need a straight answer, and i won't blame you, but i feel silly otherwise...
just be sure you ask for a straight answer so he can't reply like he did the other day
well iunno that's what i would do
i'd be dead scared of the answer
but ive been in a similar situation where i didn't ask a question because i was too scared of the answer
and now, looking back at it, it was way worse. when i did know the answer, a year later, it hurt way more, if only i had asked back then, it would have saved so much trouble! iunno if that makes sense because im not giving you many details, but it was also about a guy... and i wasn't sure if he actually loved me! i should've asked, and not lie to myself for a whole year.... (it's not your case i know, but it's sort of similar)
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I'll try that. Just gunna try and talk to him and if things get awkward I'll ask him outright if it's not the answer I want I'll just have to get over it and at least I'll know.
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Hey, sorry, i dont know if im too late. i've been busy.
how about you suggest playing games? like, random questions asked at each other, or the "you have to say a random fact about you that i dont know" ... so you get to know each other in a "easier" way?
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Tried to show how I feel I asked if he'd met anyone else and he said he'd been hanging out with a friend from work but that's all it was.
I might ruin it but I'm going to tell him how I feel.
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Well, good luck :)
If you ruin it, there was nothing in there in the first place!! Talk to me if you need anything!! xx
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Ah thank you (: