It's completely normal to be wanting of attention from others, even if one knows it is just for them to get what they want (in this case, sex). I mean, heck, that's almost the entire reason behind our current hook-up culture in the first place. All genders have people who feel this way; heck, sometimes I as a straight male crave this type of affection myself, not for simply *sex* but for the temporary attention and companionship it would provide.
I would ask yourself what it is you're looking for in these flings, and if it stems from a longing for something deeper. It may be linked to self-esteem issues from past trauma (major, or minor things; minor trauma is still trauma) or from an unhealthy mindset perpetuated by our current culture.
The bottom line, though, is that what you are doing is "normal". You aren't "just a slut", and as long as you stay safe in what you're doing you aren't about to "destroy your future".
I need advice: Is it normal I feel used by guys but like the attention?
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Is it normal? Yes.
Healthy? Maybe not.
It's completely normal to be wanting of attention from others, even if one knows it is just for them to get what they want (in this case, sex). I mean, heck, that's almost the entire reason behind our current hook-up culture in the first place. All genders have people who feel this way; heck, sometimes I as a straight male crave this type of affection myself, not for simply *sex* but for the temporary attention and companionship it would provide.
I would ask yourself what it is you're looking for in these flings, and if it stems from a longing for something deeper. It may be linked to self-esteem issues from past trauma (major, or minor things; minor trauma is still trauma) or from an unhealthy mindset perpetuated by our current culture.
The bottom line, though, is that what you are doing is "normal". You aren't "just a slut", and as long as you stay safe in what you're doing you aren't about to "destroy your future".