I need advice: Is it normal I feel used by guys but like the attention?

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  • Private3 is an idiot. No, it’s not slutty behavior. It’s almost the year fucking 2020 and this asshole is still in 2010. Your behavior may be linked to other factors in your life (Guardian issues? Abuse? Disconnection from loved ones? Etc.) but that doesn’t always have to be the case. You could just be doing you purely for enjoyment and there’s nothing wrong with that, you’re still young. I will say this though, the ones who are going to use you are probably going to hurt you. As you’ve said, you feel bad about yourself. A completely normal feeling regarding your “actions.” We live and learn, and unfortunately some lessons are harder than others. But to answer your question: yes, you are normal but I would suggest stepping back a bit and evaluating your situation. Ask yourself why you’re doing it and if you don’t know then maybe take a break from that behavior and evaluate your own past and present life? But again, nothing “abnormal” about you.
    OH, and P.S. Private3’s already talking about marriage? Must be a military dumbass who put a ring on it first thing out of high school and now regrets everything. Stay safe

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    • I think he's a troll.

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    • The year doesn't change the definition of slutty. It is slutty behavior, but slutty behavior should not be discouraged.

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      • For nearly all of human history, and in nearly all cultures, it has been discouraged. Generally the societies in which it was condoned were doomed to collapse soon after.

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        • Yes it has almost always been shamed, I am aware. That doesn't make it wrong to me still. I'm also aware that very promiscuous-encouraging societies often don't correlate with success, but to me that does not justify making being slutty on an individual level wrong.

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    • Private3 has three master's degrees and finished top of his class. He's not in the military and isn't married, so he would be grateful if you stop the verbal abuse.

      Sleeping with lots of guys is the very definition of slutty behaviour. While it's great for guys like me, it's not good for the one who's on the receiving end of all those penises.

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      • Why's it not good for the one at the receiving end?

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        • See my other comment.

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          • I have, but I still don't get it. I'm sorry if this is stupid. What's wrong with sleeping around? You can still find a 'decent man to marry' even though you've fucked others.

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