See a therapist to work through your personal issues. You may still be grieving even if you're unaware of it. I'm willing to bet that you're saying or doing something to turn off the women you've been dating, and that you're completely unaware of what you're doing.
I'm sorry for your loss, but if you're walking around with too much baggage it's going to overwhelm most people. Also you shouldn't be in such a hurry to get laid, because you need to get to know someone first. When you say you "need" someone it comes off like you're trying to replace your late wife even she wasn't perfect. No one wants to just be a surrogate!
Get some professional help and work on your issues.
Thanks for the advice, but actually I am trying to avoid non-sexual type women that were like my wife. And, I find something to enjoy about each woman I meet. Just can't get past date number two.
Taking one's time to get to know someone well doesn't mean non-sexual. My current partner and I waited nearly three months, but now we have a healthy, active sex life. I just prefer to wait til I get to know someone, and I also don't want to let sex cloud my judgment as far as compatibility is concerned.
If you can't get past date number two maybe there's something that you are either doing or not doing that's turning them off, and it could very well be something of which you're entirely unaware. Are you talking a lot about the past? A date is neither a therapist's couch nor is it a confessional. I'm not actively trying to accuse you of anything, but sometimes when people have been through a lot emotionally they tend to open up too much and too quickly with perspective partners which could very well overwhelm and frighten off those perspective partners.
I need a girlfriend. Am I normal?
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See a therapist to work through your personal issues. You may still be grieving even if you're unaware of it. I'm willing to bet that you're saying or doing something to turn off the women you've been dating, and that you're completely unaware of what you're doing.
I'm sorry for your loss, but if you're walking around with too much baggage it's going to overwhelm most people. Also you shouldn't be in such a hurry to get laid, because you need to get to know someone first. When you say you "need" someone it comes off like you're trying to replace your late wife even she wasn't perfect. No one wants to just be a surrogate!
Get some professional help and work on your issues.
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Thanks for the advice, but actually I am trying to avoid non-sexual type women that were like my wife. And, I find something to enjoy about each woman I meet. Just can't get past date number two.
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Taking one's time to get to know someone well doesn't mean non-sexual. My current partner and I waited nearly three months, but now we have a healthy, active sex life. I just prefer to wait til I get to know someone, and I also don't want to let sex cloud my judgment as far as compatibility is concerned.
If you can't get past date number two maybe there's something that you are either doing or not doing that's turning them off, and it could very well be something of which you're entirely unaware. Are you talking a lot about the past? A date is neither a therapist's couch nor is it a confessional. I'm not actively trying to accuse you of anything, but sometimes when people have been through a lot emotionally they tend to open up too much and too quickly with perspective partners which could very well overwhelm and frighten off those perspective partners.