Hang in there. While your kids are all adults as far as the law is concerned (and I'm sure they consider themselves that), neuroscience has found that people their ages are still in the final stage of adolescence. The brain only stops developing at some point in the mid-twenties, and becoming truly emotionally mature can take a lot longer than that.
Your nostalgia is pretty common, but you need to accept the relationship between a parent and their child inevitably goes through a lot of changes until both of them are able to accept each other as adults. Treat them with loving respect, acknowledge that you can't truly understand what life is like for young people these days, and accept that they have the right to find their own paths through life and make their own mistakes. Hopefully, they will eventually become mature enough to accept you for who you are and understand how much you've given them. That might take some time, and it's possible it will only happen when and if they become parents themselves.
As for the way you dress, don't worry about it. Fashion being what it is, the odds are that if you continue to do you, the wheel will continue to turn and at some point your personal style will be in vogue again.
Such a kind response, thank you. I don't even consider my fashion too eccentric, just a little wolf-like. I sometimes lament how conformist they can be.
Again a mention of grandbabies, I just hope they don't come too soon, I'm not ready for my cubs to have little cubs just yet.
I miss when my children (especially my son) were younger
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Hang in there. While your kids are all adults as far as the law is concerned (and I'm sure they consider themselves that), neuroscience has found that people their ages are still in the final stage of adolescence. The brain only stops developing at some point in the mid-twenties, and becoming truly emotionally mature can take a lot longer than that.
Your nostalgia is pretty common, but you need to accept the relationship between a parent and their child inevitably goes through a lot of changes until both of them are able to accept each other as adults. Treat them with loving respect, acknowledge that you can't truly understand what life is like for young people these days, and accept that they have the right to find their own paths through life and make their own mistakes. Hopefully, they will eventually become mature enough to accept you for who you are and understand how much you've given them. That might take some time, and it's possible it will only happen when and if they become parents themselves.
As for the way you dress, don't worry about it. Fashion being what it is, the odds are that if you continue to do you, the wheel will continue to turn and at some point your personal style will be in vogue again.
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Such a kind response, thank you. I don't even consider my fashion too eccentric, just a little wolf-like. I sometimes lament how conformist they can be.
Again a mention of grandbabies, I just hope they don't come too soon, I'm not ready for my cubs to have little cubs just yet.