I miss my fur baby so much

My beautiful cat friend past away a few months ago and I'm still struggling to get over it. Life is never going to be the same and I hate it! One of my friends told me that I should get over it and buy a new cat, but I find what he said was insensitive! I don't feel comfortable replacing her so I'm going to focus on healing and see where I am in the near future. This cat meant the world to me so it hit me hard when I lost her...

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  • I know the feeling exactly. I still miss my little mutt Yip Yip and every animal I’ve ever lost.

    If it is any consolation, as someone who has had many many animals come and go in my life, it is never a replacement when you bring in a new buddy.
    We are never able to fill the spot our old critters held, but we are able to invite new bonds into our life. And those of us who have the heart and ability to give these guys a wonderful life, it’s a blessing when a new availability opens with us and we are able to give that spot to someone new

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  • May your cat rest in peace.

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  • I'm sorry for your loss. That kind of thing is never easy, but it will get better. I wish you the best with this

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    • Ty for your kind words <3

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  • That was horrible what your friend said. Hopefully he didn't mean anything by it though, some people are like that unfortunately. They just view pets as something cute to play with when they're bored, like it's just another one of their possessions. And so when it dies, just like when a gadget breaks, they can just get another one. I can't understand that mentality, pets are members of the family. You can't just 'get another one', and then everything will be ok. You wouldn't say that about any human member of the family. Just like with human family members, our pets stay in our hearts forever. I still think about my dog all the time, 15 years after she passed away. My most commonly recurring dream is about her. I was devastated when she passed. So I know what you're going through, and I can tell you it does get easier. Now when I think of her, I feel more happy than sad. So just try to stay positive and remember that you gave her a good life with a lot of love, some cats don't get that unfortunately. Glad to hear that you're going to focus on your healing, take care of yourself. :)

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  • I’m sorry for your loss, when I lost my first cat in 2019 I was heartbroken. He was my friend and we were in perfect sync with each other. It does take a long time to heal from the death of a beloved animal as they are so enmeshed in our lives, it’s only this year I feel a little less sad at his death and more happy that I got to grow up with him.

    You’re right that there’s no replacing them, I got a cat of the same breed in February and although he’s a nice boy the connection will never be the same.

    Your feelings are normal and there’s no time limit on your mourning.

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  • Rainbow bridge for floofy fren.

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  • I thought my cat had run away a few weeks after I adopted her as a kitten. I called a sibling for comfort and they said essentially the same thing. Some people just don't understand strong emotional attachments to pets, and I don't understand those people

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  • I was in similar shoes when I lost my other pet pleco ( who died 12 years ago ), it was so hard to get over it and I still remember it.

    I can't really relate much with cats though I did have one however it wasn't originally mine since it was given to me before the owner died, my brother couldn't get over it, from what I remembered it died a year after we gave it up.

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  • I found a cocoon once that I put in a jar. It never became anything. It was dead the whole time. So I can relate.

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  • I lost my fur baby recently too just over a month ago it hurts how easily life has gone on without it but mine feels like its been crushed yet somehow the day goes on without him. Pets that are loved should always be held dearly to our hearts.

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  • First I wanna say, if you do get another cat, instead of buying one, adopt. So many animals need homes, esp now with housing crisis, people are just abandoning them, gross.

    And secondly, it's important to heal, your "friend" sounds like a sociopath with no real empathy, for you or the loss of life you're grieving over.
    Whether it's a cat, a dog, a human etc, it's life.
    Mourn the losses, for they are many.
    But remember to celebrate the victories, for they are few.
    Mourning is important and I wish more people believed that living creatures deserve it, even non human.

    My condolences on your loss

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  • I'm sorry about your kitty. That friend of yours probably thinks that replacing a dead cat is like replacing a broken toaster. That's not a good way to think at all and I don't quite understand that line of thinking. I lost my dog Blackie back in 2012 and I still miss her.

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    • maybe im just not as emotional or a jackass or somethin but i firmly believe that gettin another pet will help with the void left by a lost pet

      theres some great kitty or pup who needs a home out there 1000x a day and while they wont be your original pet you lost its the start of a new journey with a new set of idiosyncrasies

      some better some worse

      and you can mold that animal to yalls lifestyle to become a pet not some random animal

      and im sayin this knowin the dingo aint gettin any younger and meanwhile i travel for a livin which could mean i never get to be there if he goes

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  • I know when a part of ones soul is taken. I feel for you.

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss, losing a fur baby is so hard! You're right, you can never replace them.

    Everyone has their own way of processing grief, and that is okay. Do whatever feels best to you. There's absolutely no shame in holding off on getting another for awhile if you don't feel ready yet.

    Telling someone to "just get over" their grief of a lost loved one (including pets) is very insensitive, indeed. Everyone is different when it comes to how long they need to grieve, and that's also okay.

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