you aren't unstable, you have a lot on your plate.
social services can be horrid to deal with. they put people through the ringer, without any understanding or knowledge. they have the power of being civil servants, which makes them terrors.
don't forget that it will take much more time for the 3 year old to get comfortable and not feel like she's on the verge of being abandoned. it will take more time to undo all that's been done to her.
anyway, about you. i think you need to start taking care of yourself. that's the way to be a good parent. you do need time away from the kids. after all, it is never as rewarding as we imagined it.
my advice is to print what you wrote above and bring it to your primary care physician. no doubt, you may need a little help right now in the way of a prescription. please do not take that as an insult, as very few people would want to deal with a 3 year old who has issues. i know you are trying your best to be helpful to your husband, you are a wonderful woman for trying so hard.
as far as your mother goes, stop going to her for advice. obviously, she is going to be contrary to everything you do or say. isn't there another older woman in your life that you can talk to? once mom realizes that you aren't sharing anymore, she will ask. then is the time you can tell her that she hasn't been helpful, as no matter what you do or say, she finds fault in it.
good luck my dear, and please remember that this isn't going to last forever. i wish you peace:)
I'm worried I don't love my stepdaughter anymore
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you aren't unstable, you have a lot on your plate.
social services can be horrid to deal with. they put people through the ringer, without any understanding or knowledge. they have the power of being civil servants, which makes them terrors.
don't forget that it will take much more time for the 3 year old to get comfortable and not feel like she's on the verge of being abandoned. it will take more time to undo all that's been done to her.
anyway, about you. i think you need to start taking care of yourself. that's the way to be a good parent. you do need time away from the kids. after all, it is never as rewarding as we imagined it.
my advice is to print what you wrote above and bring it to your primary care physician. no doubt, you may need a little help right now in the way of a prescription. please do not take that as an insult, as very few people would want to deal with a 3 year old who has issues. i know you are trying your best to be helpful to your husband, you are a wonderful woman for trying so hard.
as far as your mother goes, stop going to her for advice. obviously, she is going to be contrary to everything you do or say. isn't there another older woman in your life that you can talk to? once mom realizes that you aren't sharing anymore, she will ask. then is the time you can tell her that she hasn't been helpful, as no matter what you do or say, she finds fault in it.
good luck my dear, and please remember that this isn't going to last forever. i wish you peace:)
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I loved everything you wrote here, you were so caring and understanding to the person who wrote this, I just wanted to let you know.