I think it's normal for you to feel the way you do if your parents cheated on each other. I'm sorry you had to be around that as a child growing up, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart! I think it's not uncommon for people to attract and or be attracted to others who remind them of their family dysfunction, because that's what's familiar.
I hope you don't mind my saying so, but I highly recommend that you speak to a therapist and or checkout a 12 step program like Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families and or Codependents Anonymous. I think it's important for you to work through these issues, learn how to set healthy boundaries, learn how to spot red flags so you know who are and who not safe people for you to date, and be friends with. Sometimes we grow up addicted to drama, because it's all we know so when we experience healthy relationships they seem boring or unnatural. Peace and serenity can be scary for us as counterintuitive as that may seem, because it's unfamiliar and we don't know what to do when we experience it. There's a good chance that when you meet "nice girls" you might not notice them, because they seem boring or strange compared to what you're used to experiencing in your life from an early age. Hang in there, brother.
P.S. There's also the possibility that one or both of your parents may have been sex addicts so I included a link to CoSex Addicts Anonymous as well. Additionally if you've been cheated on by women in the past they were most likely sex addicts. It's not your fault, there's no good excuse for cheating.
i'm terrified of being cheated on
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I think it's normal for you to feel the way you do if your parents cheated on each other. I'm sorry you had to be around that as a child growing up, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart! I think it's not uncommon for people to attract and or be attracted to others who remind them of their family dysfunction, because that's what's familiar.
I hope you don't mind my saying so, but I highly recommend that you speak to a therapist and or checkout a 12 step program like Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families and or Codependents Anonymous. I think it's important for you to work through these issues, learn how to set healthy boundaries, learn how to spot red flags so you know who are and who not safe people for you to date, and be friends with. Sometimes we grow up addicted to drama, because it's all we know so when we experience healthy relationships they seem boring or unnatural. Peace and serenity can be scary for us as counterintuitive as that may seem, because it's unfamiliar and we don't know what to do when we experience it. There's a good chance that when you meet "nice girls" you might not notice them, because they seem boring or strange compared to what you're used to experiencing in your life from an early age. Hang in there, brother.
http://www.adultchildren.org/
http://coda.org/
http://www.cosa-recovery.org/
P.S. There's also the possibility that one or both of your parents may have been sex addicts so I included a link to CoSex Addicts Anonymous as well. Additionally if you've been cheated on by women in the past they were most likely sex addicts. It's not your fault, there's no good excuse for cheating.