Yeah, but I get picked out of the group most times. It's kinda frustrating on this site that you come here asking for advice because you have a problem, and then instead of advising you on that problem, people want to pick apart every piece of your issue instead...just sayin. As you don't know me, it would be a lot more helpful if you'd just assume my perceptions are accurate - there would be no point asking for advice on being smart and attractive, if in fact I was ugly and stupid, because the advice I would get would be completely useless and irrelevant.I didn't come here to boast about my good qualities, I came here to ask for help with my poor ones (my personality).
Basically, people react badly towards those declaring themselves highly intelligent and "very pretty", regardless of whether the common consensus supports that opinion.
They are instantly predisposed to being overly critical of the person, to challenge these assertions.
I think some people here are doing this, and that this is unfair - but not unexpected.
Unfortunately, without knowing you well, we aren't in a position to determine why you can't get a boyfriend. Certainly we're in no better position than you are, and since we only have your side of things, I doubt we can give you any new insight.
I'd suggest you ask your 5 close friends, see what they have to say. Tell them not to worry about hurting your feelings, and for them to be as honest as possible. They might be able to help.
All you'll get from us a vague speculation and probably some acerbic and disparaging remarks. Oh and some optimistic 'hang in there girl!' encouragement, too.
It could be the whole "cheerleader" effect or whatever How I met Your mother calls it (lol).
Personally, I am only calling you a narcissist out of jokes based on what some others have said. In all honesty, I think more detail would be needed on you and perhaps a picture to be able to make a somewhat close assumption on what can help. I know that's my issue with posts about being pretty or not (the rest can be explained by text), a picture is pretty much the only way we can see if your physical appearance has a play in it or not.
I'm smart, pretty, weird, and I can't get a boyfriend
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Guys want to get with anything with boobs...I wouldn't base that on your level of beauty...Just sayin'.
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Basically, people react badly towards those declaring themselves highly intelligent and "very pretty", regardless of whether the common consensus supports that opinion.
They are instantly predisposed to being overly critical of the person, to challenge these assertions.
I think some people here are doing this, and that this is unfair - but not unexpected.
Unfortunately, without knowing you well, we aren't in a position to determine why you can't get a boyfriend. Certainly we're in no better position than you are, and since we only have your side of things, I doubt we can give you any new insight.
I'd suggest you ask your 5 close friends, see what they have to say. Tell them not to worry about hurting your feelings, and for them to be as honest as possible. They might be able to help.
All you'll get from us a vague speculation and probably some acerbic and disparaging remarks. Oh and some optimistic 'hang in there girl!' encouragement, too.
You posted here for advice? You're better off browsing subreddits like r/needadvice.
If you want a place to vent whilst preserving your anonymity, try: blahtherapy.com
It could be the whole "cheerleader" effect or whatever How I met Your mother calls it (lol).
Personally, I am only calling you a narcissist out of jokes based on what some others have said. In all honesty, I think more detail would be needed on you and perhaps a picture to be able to make a somewhat close assumption on what can help. I know that's my issue with posts about being pretty or not (the rest can be explained by text), a picture is pretty much the only way we can see if your physical appearance has a play in it or not.