I'm sick of being jealous..

I am so jealous of the rich kids and their careers taking off and I'm just no one sitting at home all day trying to study. And these rich kids have all pretty friends, expensive as fuck clothes and this is something that's making me really upset and just ruins my day... !!! What do I do?!!! I don't wanna waste my life like this being jealous of rich kids... its like a cavity in my brain and I desire what they have so badly...

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  • Pray for the people you're envious of for two, o three weeks, and see if that helps.

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  • It sounds like victim mentality and it will hold you back more than any rich CEO billionaire. Its self sabotage. If you think like a loser you'll become a loser. If you think like a winner chances are you'll start winning

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  • Money doesn't make you happy. It brings alot of problems with it too. I have nothing to be jealous of. Sure I wouldn't mind having a luxury yacht and a Lamborghini and having golddiggers trying to impress me every day, but none of that is necessary to live a happy life. But first thing's first, like others mentioned you need to stop looking at people who have it better than you... Look at all the billions of people around the globe who have it much worse than you and struggle to survive and see intense suffering all around them on a daily basis. Then understand that the odds of you being born in a less fortunate situation were extremely high, yet you lucked out and were born in a first world country with a roof over your head, food in your stomach, clean drinking water and the opportunity to study. Most people in the world don't have this. You need to fully appreciate the things that you DO have and not focus on what you don't have in order to become happier and content. And also realize that you really don't need anything but the bare essentials to be truly happy, as true happiness comes from within and not from external factors. I suggest looking into certain "spiritual" ideas. Listen to some Alan Watts speeches, try meditation, read a book or two about consciousness and reality, watch some documentaries about the downside of having lots of money and how it has destroyed people's lives, watch some crazy prison documentaries to get a new appreciation for the comfort you live in. Just stop focusing on a few lucky rich kids who represent maybe 0.0001% of the planet and are nowhere near as happy as they may appear to be. Everyone has their own struggles and 99% of it is in the mind.

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    • Yes Yes Yes! I shall learn to be more grateful for the things I have and appreciate them more. Everyone truly has their own struggles now that I think about it and I would usually never understand some of their struggles. I shouldn't have assumed they don't have bad days etc. I will start meditating and start connecting myself to reality. Some people online are so loved by other users that I sometimes want to experience it myself and so I try to make a conversation and I like how our conversations go so the way I always try so hard for someone's attention leaves me wanting for more so maybe I have no sense of reality and I'm just being dependent and searching for validity which sucks I really hope this jealous and insecure feeling goes away, I really do. I will try to keep my thoughts and lifestyle healthy and read a nice book. Thank you so much for letting me vent.

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      • No problem. You know, it's entirely okay to experience feelings of desire and a need for attention sometimes, everybody has them and they may one day even be the catalyst that pushes you to start making big steps towards certain goals. But it becomes a problem when it affects your emotional well-being and your ability to function properly in daily life. I also have desires, and honestly it was kind of similar to yours. All I wanted was a bunch of money, not so that I can buy luxury goods with it, but just so I can travel the world indefinitely and have my life be an adventure instead of feeling stuck in a loop of boring shit all day every day. I must say for the past 2 years I lived like an absolute cheapskate while working my ass off just to be able to save up the money to do this, and although I still don't have much money at all, it was enough for me to buy a plane ticket to Costa Rica and survive for quite a while if necessary. So now I'm here in a foreign country without a job, house, study or alot money and my future is completely uncertain. However, it is totally worth it because at least now my life is a random adventure which is what I desired most. It all boils down to where your priorities lie. I'm willing to take this huge risk just so I can live in the moment now and feel free. What happens when I run out of money and still haven't found a stable life is a worry for later.

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        • That's too brave of you omg I'm glad you're living life now. That's right it is a worry for later I hope you grab opportunities when you get them. Most of the people like me are sleepwalking through life so one should really live a life like living. Hoping life treats you well :D

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  • My advice to you, is do something about it. You want to have what they have? Make it happen. The only person that will keep you from achieving that is yourself. Take that jealousy, and turn it into the fuel that gets you to where you want to be.

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    • I'm wasting time being jealous so it's really hard for me to put aside those feelings... It'll ruin the mood and I won't get any work done although when I don't see anything negative after a good sleep I could get myself to work. I also get jealous of some smart people's achievements like... I know I'm awful

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  • It's this jealousy if that's what you want to call it, that probably prompted their parents, grandparents, or even great grandparents, to work their butts off and provide for their children an education and backing to have a better life than they had.

    Somewhere back in time at least one of their ancestors accepted the fact that the best they could do was to work to have a good life but provide the means for their children to have a great life.

    Unfortunately after about 3 or 4 generations that work ethic and thought process is lost and a lot of the offspring come across as spoiled, entitled brats. Sometimes losing everything and the cycle starts again.

    In short don't worry about everyone else. Work to provide a better life for yourself and your family as that comes.

    When life hands you lemons make lemon meringue pie, I like lemonade but I love lemon pie.

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    • That's a really nice example yeah their ancestors probably worked their asses off but then kids now, they're just lucky to be born and bought up in a rich household. I really want to have a 'fuck everything', 'eat the rich' attitude maybe I care too much and I can't control it. I'll work with the motivation your comment has given me but I don't know how long it will last. It seems like I work faster under pressure of getting things done before time so maybe I'll find some way. Thank you so much!!!

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  • Why care about other people?

    Just be yourself and live life to the very fullest.

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