I'm scared to get close to people. . .

If he asks you out, it's okay to turn him down if he doesn't feel the same way. He will understand. But whatever you do, do not start avoiding him. That will utterly destroy him. Trust me, that's the worst thing you can do to someone. He won't understand why you're acting this way. He'll be upset because of the fact that you were friends for so long. He won't understand why just telling you how he feels automatically ends the relationship. Listen, it's completely fine that you don't want to get close to anybody, but don't start avoiding this guy. Seriously, I've had a girl do that to me, and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. It was so bad that now I'm afraid to get close to people just like you. So in a way I understand how you feel. I hope things go well for you.

same issue here. there's nothing wrong with you, cause that's perfectly normal when you've been hurt. it's a kind of psychological defense mechanism, like laughing when you're sad. if you're not sure whether he'll ask you out or not, then no need to stress yourself out.
i don't understand what your problem is. (don't get me wrong, i mean what kind of advice/reply you're looking for). if you're scared to open up to a guy who asks you out, then if he really loves you, he'll try to help. you both have to try to open up to each other, otherwise it's half-assed. and about the fear of getting close, you're not alone. although, the past is the past, there's nothing you can change.

It's your life but if i were you I wouldn't do that your friend may have not been there for u and went off with somone else but that dosn't mean everyone will do it. She's just a crappy friend and about the boy there is no reason to ignore it but if you dont like him romantilcly them the above comment is right it isn't really worth it. but he could still be a good friend.

I totally have the same issue and i don't think there is anything wrong with us. Though when i'm just sitting by myself that thought does pop up in the back (oh hell lets be honest) the front of my head but really we're just afraid. God knows I have no idea why, but it is true and...

As far as the guy goes if you're not romantically interested there's no point. I've done the dating without attraction thing and you'd be better off just staying friends. I'm sure if he's been around that long he's not going to up and leave. he likes you too much.

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