I'm okay knowing i won't be friends with them later on

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Okay, so I make friends pretty easily, and I love my best friend to death. But I have a pretty strong feeling that after high school, we're going to lose touch, along with all of my other close friends. I know it's depressing, but the friends I'm making now can help me find myself and comfort me and whatever for now, but, honestly, in the future, we're going to be very different people. I can already see my best friend will be an ignorant housewife, possibly an elementary school teacher, and she'll be content with that, but that's not going to be me. But for now, while we still have a lot in common, it's alright to be friends with her. We can talk about how we're going to be "friends forever," but I know deep down it's not going to be like that. Later, what's the point in being friends when we have nothing in common- it's not like she's irreplaceable. And what's the harm in that? People move on, and I've accepted that. So, is it normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I know exactly what you're talking about! And I'm also cool with it. I'm excited to meet new people and experience different things. You just have to enjoy the time you have with them now, and embrace the diversity later on! =)

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  • mrlebowski
    13 years ago | pl

    that is something 100% of high school students dread

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  • jamesastonn
    13 years ago | pl

    You could give it a try at being "friends forever"?

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  • bronte_91
    13 years ago | pl

    I think, it is important to be realistic, but don't cut her out of your life as soon as both finish school. Do you know how she feels about your friendship together? Perhaps she still thinks you can remain close friends? My best friend and I have been friends for 14 years now and even though we are both in very different places now, we are closer than ever. If she does change ( or you change ) then, yes it is time to move on. But, if you are both willing to put in the effort, don't dismiss it :)

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  • artFreak
    13 years ago | pl

    Normal. You r realistic. When i hear this "friends for ever" it's just sooo annoying and stupid, b/c when i was in school i used to be the one who would say that, and many shit happened and it's just ..stupid! U never know what is going to happen. i had like this..best friend at high school, now..i see her like..few times in a year, and we call each other, but it's not the same. Many stuff happened. i still love her, but we changed. The point is, to keep this people in touch in future,,that shows that u appreciated what they did for u :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    I kindof get where your coming from but then again its kindof rude.
    I wouldnt want my friend dumping me just because they wanted to be a lawyer and I a chef.

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  • katiebuglahv
    13 years ago | pl

    I agree... You sound like a jerk. :/ don't lie and say "friends forever" if you're just going to leave them behind in your high and mighty dust.

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  • ArayaLioness
    8 years ago | pl

    I think it's normal, but you don't HAVE to lose touch. Just because you will be in different places doesn't mean that you can't be friends.

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  • viper305
    13 years ago | pl

    Fkn A man. So what if she's going to have a "standard" or "below par" life? Are you high and mighty enough not to be her friend because of that?

    You suck and don't deserve to have friends at all.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago | pl

      It's not that her life is going to be "below par," it's just that we're going to be very different. She's been raised with very conservative, modest values and her mom is a part-time teacher, when she isn't home cooking and cleaning. And my friend admits she'll probably do the same. But what's the point in being friends with her then if I want to be a doctor or an engineer? We just wouldn't have anything in common.

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      • BoredGuy
        12 years ago | pl

        your work =//= you. You will have nothing in common if everything that is included in you, is your work.

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