Don't make stuff up, it sets a false expectation. The situation obviously isn't normal, but not being able to love yourself is actually a valid reason to not get married. Just based on what I read here is what it sounds like: He thinks it's unfair to you as the fiance to not fully be able to commit to you. It's sincerely not about you or whether he loves you, it's about him not loving himself and realizing it would hurt you both long term.
Now just drinking, giving up and saying he's hollow isn't a particularly good idea. It's like a little kid saying they're bad over and over because they feel bad and because someone told them once they were bad if they act this way. My best guess is he honestly just sounds super ashamed and embarrassed and it all just snowballed to some kind of conclusion he wasn't worthy or ready to get married. That's the devil of self worth though, you don't have it till you stop pissing on yourself and telling yourself you're hollow.
I'm losing my mind? Normal?
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Don't make stuff up, it sets a false expectation. The situation obviously isn't normal, but not being able to love yourself is actually a valid reason to not get married. Just based on what I read here is what it sounds like: He thinks it's unfair to you as the fiance to not fully be able to commit to you. It's sincerely not about you or whether he loves you, it's about him not loving himself and realizing it would hurt you both long term.
Now just drinking, giving up and saying he's hollow isn't a particularly good idea. It's like a little kid saying they're bad over and over because they feel bad and because someone told them once they were bad if they act this way. My best guess is he honestly just sounds super ashamed and embarrassed and it all just snowballed to some kind of conclusion he wasn't worthy or ready to get married. That's the devil of self worth though, you don't have it till you stop pissing on yourself and telling yourself you're hollow.