I'm in love with my bestfriend

I love my best friend. We've know each other for about 1.5 years now. At the beginning I was chasing after her, but I gave up in the middle because she couldn't get over her ex, so I find myself another girlfriend. It was then we became best friend. My relationship with the other girl didn't last long and I broke up and it took me sometime to forget bout that girl.
Now I found my self in love my best friend again. She was the reason why I started playing guitar and she occupied my mind most of the time.
When I confessed to her, she said she considered me only as her best friend and she said if I confessed to her before I went out with the other girl, she would've accept me. So I hugged her and even kissed her on the lips, she shows only a little rejection. She even said that she might even regret it rejecting me. But she still said no.
At first I was planning on ending this friendship if she were to reject me. Because at the start our friendship has also stretch a bit.
But she's just too precious for me and because she didn't avoid me at all,only show little rejection and saying that she might regret it, making me unable to give up on her yet and continue to fight on knowing I have a very small chance and might be hurt again.
But I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. Right now I can only hope that my determination can change her feeling in the future, despite having a very small chance of that to happen..

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  • Thatguy777

    Sadly, it's impossible to just be friends with someone you're in love with. Trust me because I've been on the same boat. She was my bestfriend too, and I miss her EVERY SINGLE DAY, but deep down I will ALWAYS love her, because true love never ever dies. She even knows that's how I felt about her. You have it better than me because she did horrible things to me that's fucked up my self esteem even to this day. She calmly rejected you, and the same thing happened to me, but she cut me out of her life for two months afterwards which just completely fucked me up.

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  • ehossner740

    This happens to a lot of people. I'm in the same type of situation, only I never even said I like her to her face. So you are in a better position than I am.

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  • BoredGuy

    I would tell that this is hard on you and that your sorry about how this turn out, and then never talk to her again.

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  • David12

    Here is some additional from me...
    I need some advice... :(

    I love my best friend. We've known each other for about 1.5 years now.

    At the beginning I was chasing after her, but I gave up in the middle because she couldn't get over her ex, so I find myself another girlfriend. It was then we became best friend. My relationship with the other girl didn't last long and I broke up and it took me sometime to forget bout that girl. Now I found my self in love my best friend again. She was the reason why I started playing guitar and she occupied my mind most of the time. I've confessed to her and she rejected me.

    At first I was planning on ending this friendship if she were to reject me. Because at the start our friendship has also stretch a bit. When I started loving her again, I feel that our relationship has stretched a bit. Even as a friend we were getting a bit further, but we were still close with each other. You could say that our relationship was not a peak anymore or not as close as before and I don't know why. She said she didn't realize that I love her, not until I confessed to her, so I don't think she was avoiding me.

    Some of my friends asked me to give up because they say I have no chance, but still confessed to her. I confessed to her twice. At first she said she still do not know the answer and ask me to wait whether her feeling will change within a month. So a month has passed and I asked her again. She still said no.

    She said she considered me only as her best friend and she said if I confessed to her before I went out with the other girl, she would've accept me. We talked for a while and then I hugged her and even kissed her on the lips, she shows only a little rejection. She even said that she might even regret it rejecting me. But she still said no. She told me to forget bout her, but she's not even sure herself whether she will regret it or not.

    Because even before I confess our relationship was getting further, I thought I want to end this friendship as well.But she's just too precious for me and because she didn't avoid me at all,only show little rejection and saying that she might regret it, making me unable to give up on her yet and continue to fight on knowing I have a very small chance and might be hurt again.

    Now, we still are close friend. We do hang out with each other, but my relationship with her still are not getting better or getting to 'the peak' again. I even feel that there's a chance that we will be no longer a close friend.

    I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. I don't even know why I love her, because our personality are different to each other and she's not my type of girl, but I just can't help it to falling in love with her. Right now I can only hope that my determination can change her feeling in the future, despite having a very small chance of that to happen..

    I need some advice on how to handle this situation....

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  • litnas

    Honestly, I think that it was not fare from her telling you that she would have accepted you if you would have asked her before having your previous girlfriend. But you should try a little bit more, because she might be the right person for you. Unless you feel that your relationship with her is damaging you, you should keep trying.

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  • bdbdbd

    Well my dear, it's normal to be in love with your best friend. I think it happens to best of us. BUT i don't think it's fair that her being your "best friend" is treating you that way. It sounds as if you're almost begging for her love and that's never okay. You should find someone who respects you and loves you for who you are, as corny as it sounds, you'll realize sooner or later how foolish it was to pursue something that was never really there. I think it's best to give her her space and although you might not see it, you might be making her really uncomfortable. Give her space. Go out a lot, meet people. Do anything to get your mind off her and that situation. With time you'll realize how this wasn't worth it..

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