I'm going on a date in like a week and i'm feeling nervous

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Ugh I'm just hoping I keep my cool, I feel like it's been so long since I've even socialized with ANYONE let alone a whole date with someone I've never actually met before, shes really cute and I'm taking her climbing and she seems excited but suddenly I'm feeling insecure as shit and I'm not feeling excited just worried.

Kind of wish I felt more confident, do I just fake it till I make it? I guess if I go in without any expectations it can't be that bad. I was so excited for the last week but today all of a sudden I feel worried, I think I dont feel good in my skin today so I dont feel sexy and therefore can't imagine her being thrilled seeing me, other days I feel great though I dunno if it's dysmorphia or not but I'm pretty sure I'm not unattractive I just feel incredibly insecure in my appearance rn and it's making me feel like I wont be able to relax and be myself because I'll be afraid I look terrible.

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MonteMetcalfe

3 years ago | pl

I'd be more nervous about climbing with someone I'd never actually met before.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  3 years ago
  
  That's an excellent point.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Tbh yes me too a little bit, I thought itd be a fun active date but now idk anymore she's never been climbing before and it might be hard to keep a conversation and get to know her when we have to constantly climb
  
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  - MonteMetcalfe
    
    3 years ago
    
    Is it at an indoor climbing wall or gym where there may be supervision if you guys have a problem? If not I'd say go for something a little less intense for a first date. A walk in the park or a zoo. Something that you can cut short if you needed. There's always the possibility that once you meet her in person YOU may not find her attractive.
    Good luck & have fun.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      3 years ago
      
      Oh there is yeah its indoor with staff and I'm experienced I can definitely help her shes sporty so I think she'll be fine.. I agree I probably should've gone for something less intense I might go for a coffee first and then head off climbing but itll probably be a bit of a long date.. can't really make any getaways if I wanted because the place is like a half hour train ride from the city centre.. what have I gotten myself into hahaha if I dont like her or she doesnt like me were stuck together for ages..
      
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thepuppet

3 years ago | pl

hey it's okay dude, it's normal to feel nervous and everything

don't sweat it too much, just see it as a fun time and getting to interact with someone, i'm sure she won't judge you like you're judging yourself

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Thanks man you're right gah I try not to get into these states, I feel better now though thank you for your support I actually think I just needed to hear that it'll be all good from someone else to allow myself to believe it, so thanks man I really appreciate it ima get my head screwed on straight and remember my value :)
  
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SmokeEverything

3 years ago

If she wasnt attracted to you she wouldnt be going on a date with you so ignore it.

Ive got 2 life strategies here that if you use them together will help this situation.

1) Dont expect anything out of life in general and you'll never be disappointed and

2) Awkwardness doesnt exist if you don't aknowledge it and play it off well enough

Just roll with it. Your date and life in general. Lifes like a river, it goes the way it goes because thats just how it fucking is.

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mafioso

3 years ago

Just say something like "Do you feel that nervous as me?" at the start of the date or use any ice-breaker and if she's good for you, it will be fine. :)

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James1515

3 years ago

My advice would be to not talk too much or over explain yourself. You'll be just fine!

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nopurpose

3 years ago

Who goes on dates amid pandemics?! Crazy!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Idk man I need to live my life plus its within the parameters of the restrictions so..
  
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  - nopurpose
    
    3 years ago
    
    Don't you plan on kissing her? I doubt that's a good idea. It could be very.. short-lived romance. Ahem..
    
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Somenormie

3 years ago

Normal to feel nervous.

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