Thank you all for your replies. I really appreciate them all. For those who asked why I got engaged when am not in love, guess there's a bit of clarification here. In my culture, engagement is like dating, esp. if the whole thing is arranged. If we were to be married, it's not gonna happen before at least one year. So this is like a period to get to know each other more. I don't fall in love from first sight like they say, but it freaks me out cause my fiancee is moving too fast with the whole thing while am not and now am at square 1.
Anyhow, I admit I made mistakes here :( I have been trying to get over the first guy for too long..more than a year now!! The whole thing is not working..so I thought it was time to just move on and meet someone new. But I still think about him, esp with that fb thingy, it just melted all my efforts..Maybe I was wrong to date someone at this stage..I wish I can just stop comparing them, or thinking, and just be happy, but it seems like self-deception to me, and I don't know if I gave it more time, would things get better with my engagement or it's just hopeless :/
I'm engaged but I love someone else! How to get out of this mess!
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Thank you all for your replies. I really appreciate them all. For those who asked why I got engaged when am not in love, guess there's a bit of clarification here. In my culture, engagement is like dating, esp. if the whole thing is arranged. If we were to be married, it's not gonna happen before at least one year. So this is like a period to get to know each other more. I don't fall in love from first sight like they say, but it freaks me out cause my fiancee is moving too fast with the whole thing while am not and now am at square 1.
Anyhow, I admit I made mistakes here :( I have been trying to get over the first guy for too long..more than a year now!! The whole thing is not working..so I thought it was time to just move on and meet someone new. But I still think about him, esp with that fb thingy, it just melted all my efforts..Maybe I was wrong to date someone at this stage..I wish I can just stop comparing them, or thinking, and just be happy, but it seems like self-deception to me, and I don't know if I gave it more time, would things get better with my engagement or it's just hopeless :/