He has abandonment issues, and is trying to control you with them. If he were a good dad, he'd want you to spread your wings and succeed, see the world, experience good and bad, make him proud. I've experienced the same with a woman I dated and did very well with, fell in love. She moved back with her mom after having health issues, and now, it's the other way around. Instead of mom taking care of her, she takes care of mom. Mom is ok, but, does say and do things to keep her there and make her feel guilty about even having a night out with me.
We'd talked about the next step, her moving into my house (or, even us getting our own place that wasn't mine or hers; Ours), and the first thing she said was "My mom would lose it and go off on me about leaving her". In other words, guilt trip her into staying and not having her own life with me. I still associate and help her, but, we're not a couple in that sense anymore, b/c I know, mean as it sounds..Mom is in the way. She and I could have a great life together if mom would let go even a little and stop the guilt trips for the woman having her own life.
I'm concerned about my dad's mental health when I move out
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He has abandonment issues, and is trying to control you with them. If he were a good dad, he'd want you to spread your wings and succeed, see the world, experience good and bad, make him proud. I've experienced the same with a woman I dated and did very well with, fell in love. She moved back with her mom after having health issues, and now, it's the other way around. Instead of mom taking care of her, she takes care of mom. Mom is ok, but, does say and do things to keep her there and make her feel guilty about even having a night out with me.
We'd talked about the next step, her moving into my house (or, even us getting our own place that wasn't mine or hers; Ours), and the first thing she said was "My mom would lose it and go off on me about leaving her". In other words, guilt trip her into staying and not having her own life with me. I still associate and help her, but, we're not a couple in that sense anymore, b/c I know, mean as it sounds..Mom is in the way. She and I could have a great life together if mom would let go even a little and stop the guilt trips for the woman having her own life.