Please know: You're not alone. I feel that way still and I'm in my 30's. been like that since I was young. easy for people to look down at us, but they can't advise till they're in your shoes.
I've improved over last couple of years. Found going to doctors and asking for advice helped. They may provide anti anxiety medication which helps too. Be careful though, you know in yourself if taking medication is right for you. Bar medication, I suggest by at least starting to saying something, and smiling not so much that you look crazy. At least, your smile will make you look more approachable. That is if you're not smiling already. You never know, there are probably alot of people wanting to know you, but they're not sure how to approach you.Think you WILL conquer this, cause you don't want to be like this all your life.
thankfully, I've got a friendly side to me so that has made it easier for me. Don't rush it, take small steps. First smile, if you get a chance where you can join a conversation: think before and gauge whether they will accept your input in the first place, otherwise you will get rejected. Whether you pitch in, or they ask you something, THINK about the subject and your input before letting any words come out of your mouth. Even practice with family if you have them around - don't say you're doing it for social reasons. Just observe their reactions and practice with them. Small steps like that. You WILL be okay. Try not to worry or let it consume you. Easier said than done, but you will realise over time that you will have spent alot of time worrying about it. Have an attitude that you WILL be ok. If anything, just put in the effort, but most of all let the ability to speak to others happen naturally, in you own time, slowly and in YOUR style (don't copy other people's mannerisms) all the very best. hope you make some progress.
i'm afraid of people and try to avoid them
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Please know: You're not alone. I feel that way still and I'm in my 30's. been like that since I was young. easy for people to look down at us, but they can't advise till they're in your shoes.
I've improved over last couple of years. Found going to doctors and asking for advice helped. They may provide anti anxiety medication which helps too. Be careful though, you know in yourself if taking medication is right for you. Bar medication, I suggest by at least starting to saying something, and smiling not so much that you look crazy. At least, your smile will make you look more approachable. That is if you're not smiling already. You never know, there are probably alot of people wanting to know you, but they're not sure how to approach you.Think you WILL conquer this, cause you don't want to be like this all your life.
thankfully, I've got a friendly side to me so that has made it easier for me. Don't rush it, take small steps. First smile, if you get a chance where you can join a conversation: think before and gauge whether they will accept your input in the first place, otherwise you will get rejected. Whether you pitch in, or they ask you something, THINK about the subject and your input before letting any words come out of your mouth. Even practice with family if you have them around - don't say you're doing it for social reasons. Just observe their reactions and practice with them. Small steps like that. You WILL be okay. Try not to worry or let it consume you. Easier said than done, but you will realise over time that you will have spent alot of time worrying about it. Have an attitude that you WILL be ok. If anything, just put in the effort, but most of all let the ability to speak to others happen naturally, in you own time, slowly and in YOUR style (don't copy other people's mannerisms) all the very best. hope you make some progress.