Hey kid, you're normal. Of course you like guys that don't notice you. It's an imperfect world. Same is true for most 40 year old women.
What you need is practice handling boys. Social artistry is the vitamin for life. Get practicing. Learn to be nice to boys you don't feel a connection with and put in the "friend zone" gracefully. Learn to adjust the social distance between you and other people. The way to learn social grace is practice, practice, practice. It isn't easy, expect to stumble and fall. Call a guy tonight - a march of a thousand mile begins with the first step.
thnx for the advice ,i really appreciaste that
i will work on that.
but u don't know what ! i don't mind talking to boys!
i have more guyfriends than girl friends , i feel relaxed arownd my guy friends more than my girl friends
even my best frien is a boy
if i like a boy more than friends, i do talk to him all the time but only by texting him , i feel nervous when i talk to him face to face
i am nice only with my guy friends and boys that i like more than friends ! why ? cause i can't be myself with stranger boys and cannot feel relaxed arownd, so that's my way to deal with them and that's a problem
so i'm gonna try to work on ur advice about trying to be nice with strangers . and maybe i'm rejecting everyone who asks me out cause i'm really afraid of being a heart broken girl again , i've been through that before . it's sucks and u cannot get out of it easly , even when u think u moved on some memories came back and destroy u again and again .
my problem is just thinking about some guy asks me out makes me nervous so i immediately say no !
Those boys need to become social artists as well. You need to learn to put your attraction to them on the back burner, and figure out what their personality is really like. Practice will get you there. Adolescent hormones (both for boys and girls) makes it a difficult job.
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Hey kid, you're normal. Of course you like guys that don't notice you. It's an imperfect world. Same is true for most 40 year old women.
What you need is practice handling boys. Social artistry is the vitamin for life. Get practicing. Learn to be nice to boys you don't feel a connection with and put in the "friend zone" gracefully. Learn to adjust the social distance between you and other people. The way to learn social grace is practice, practice, practice. It isn't easy, expect to stumble and fall. Call a guy tonight - a march of a thousand mile begins with the first step.
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thnx for the advice ,i really appreciaste that
i will work on that.
but u don't know what ! i don't mind talking to boys!
i have more guyfriends than girl friends , i feel relaxed arownd my guy friends more than my girl friends
even my best frien is a boy
if i like a boy more than friends, i do talk to him all the time but only by texting him , i feel nervous when i talk to him face to face
i am nice only with my guy friends and boys that i like more than friends ! why ? cause i can't be myself with stranger boys and cannot feel relaxed arownd, so that's my way to deal with them and that's a problem
so i'm gonna try to work on ur advice about trying to be nice with strangers . and maybe i'm rejecting everyone who asks me out cause i'm really afraid of being a heart broken girl again , i've been through that before . it's sucks and u cannot get out of it easly , even when u think u moved on some memories came back and destroy u again and again .
my problem is just thinking about some guy asks me out makes me nervous so i immediately say no !
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Those boys need to become social artists as well. You need to learn to put your attraction to them on the back burner, and figure out what their personality is really like. Practice will get you there. Adolescent hormones (both for boys and girls) makes it a difficult job.
Try to get comfortable in your own skin.
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i'll try to
thnx