TRUST is the issue. If they ask you out, give them your phone number instead. Try talking on the phone with boys for an hour or so every night. After a few months, you will feel more relaxed around some of them.
even when boys that i feel relaxed around ask me out the first thing that comes to my mind is to say just know cuz this makes me nervous!
the problem is that i have trust issues with everybody not only boys.
even when i really like the guy i think of him all the time and i wish that he asks me out but when i really think about it , i change my mind i'm just not sure ! maybe the problem is that i can't make a decision especially when it comes to dating.
i know this seems weird or some of u would call this cocky or immature but i'm really honest about it! when i meet some guy and i like him , in some point i want to start a relationship with him!
but once he didn't ask me out in this period of time, in some way i move on and don't come back only when it comes to dating him but i keep on having some feelings to this person .i don't know if any of u have the same problem but i'm sure that's not normal
i really need some help!!
Hey kid, you're normal. Of course you like guys that don't notice you. It's an imperfect world. Same is true for most 40 year old women.
What you need is practice handling boys. Social artistry is the vitamin for life. Get practicing. Learn to be nice to boys you don't feel a connection with and put in the "friend zone" gracefully. Learn to adjust the social distance between you and other people. The way to learn social grace is practice, practice, practice. It isn't easy, expect to stumble and fall. Call a guy tonight - a march of a thousand mile begins with the first step.
thnx for the advice ,i really appreciaste that
i will work on that.
but u don't know what ! i don't mind talking to boys!
i have more guyfriends than girl friends , i feel relaxed arownd my guy friends more than my girl friends
even my best frien is a boy
if i like a boy more than friends, i do talk to him all the time but only by texting him , i feel nervous when i talk to him face to face
i am nice only with my guy friends and boys that i like more than friends ! why ? cause i can't be myself with stranger boys and cannot feel relaxed arownd, so that's my way to deal with them and that's a problem
so i'm gonna try to work on ur advice about trying to be nice with strangers . and maybe i'm rejecting everyone who asks me out cause i'm really afraid of being a heart broken girl again , i've been through that before . it's sucks and u cannot get out of it easly , even when u think u moved on some memories came back and destroy u again and again .
my problem is just thinking about some guy asks me out makes me nervous so i immediately say no !
Those boys need to become social artists as well. You need to learn to put your attraction to them on the back burner, and figure out what their personality is really like. Practice will get you there. Adolescent hormones (both for boys and girls) makes it a difficult job.
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TRUST is the issue. If they ask you out, give them your phone number instead. Try talking on the phone with boys for an hour or so every night. After a few months, you will feel more relaxed around some of them.
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even when boys that i feel relaxed around ask me out the first thing that comes to my mind is to say just know cuz this makes me nervous!
the problem is that i have trust issues with everybody not only boys.
even when i really like the guy i think of him all the time and i wish that he asks me out but when i really think about it , i change my mind i'm just not sure ! maybe the problem is that i can't make a decision especially when it comes to dating.
i know this seems weird or some of u would call this cocky or immature but i'm really honest about it! when i meet some guy and i like him , in some point i want to start a relationship with him!
but once he didn't ask me out in this period of time, in some way i move on and don't come back only when it comes to dating him but i keep on having some feelings to this person .i don't know if any of u have the same problem but i'm sure that's not normal
i really need some help!!
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Hey kid, you're normal. Of course you like guys that don't notice you. It's an imperfect world. Same is true for most 40 year old women.
What you need is practice handling boys. Social artistry is the vitamin for life. Get practicing. Learn to be nice to boys you don't feel a connection with and put in the "friend zone" gracefully. Learn to adjust the social distance between you and other people. The way to learn social grace is practice, practice, practice. It isn't easy, expect to stumble and fall. Call a guy tonight - a march of a thousand mile begins with the first step.
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thnx for the advice ,i really appreciaste that
i will work on that.
but u don't know what ! i don't mind talking to boys!
i have more guyfriends than girl friends , i feel relaxed arownd my guy friends more than my girl friends
even my best frien is a boy
if i like a boy more than friends, i do talk to him all the time but only by texting him , i feel nervous when i talk to him face to face
i am nice only with my guy friends and boys that i like more than friends ! why ? cause i can't be myself with stranger boys and cannot feel relaxed arownd, so that's my way to deal with them and that's a problem
so i'm gonna try to work on ur advice about trying to be nice with strangers . and maybe i'm rejecting everyone who asks me out cause i'm really afraid of being a heart broken girl again , i've been through that before . it's sucks and u cannot get out of it easly , even when u think u moved on some memories came back and destroy u again and again .
my problem is just thinking about some guy asks me out makes me nervous so i immediately say no !
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Those boys need to become social artists as well. You need to learn to put your attraction to them on the back burner, and figure out what their personality is really like. Practice will get you there. Adolescent hormones (both for boys and girls) makes it a difficult job.
Try to get comfortable in your own skin.
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i'll try to
thnx