The "never been aroused" part is normal. Many females don't feel much sexual excitement. And I get that sex and romance are different things. So you could still want a relationship despite not wanting to get down and dirty. But you have to come clean with your fiancé. And also know that you're gonna have to put out as part of the relationship. If you're okay with that, and if he's okay with boning a woman who doesn't desire him all that much (I would be), then you're both good to go. Just be upfront about the deal each of you is signing into.
Re: the wedding night. Nothing to get worried about. You just lay there and let him do his thing. I'm sure he'll be so excited he'll be done with you in a couple of minutes.
There are asexual people who aren't uncomfortable with sex and have it with their partner just because their partner enjoys it.
Think of it like being indifferent about fishing, but you go fish with your partner anyway because they enjoy it. You don't hate fishing but you have absolutely zero urge to do it.
If it's active dislike or hatred on her part, probably not. (Probably, not definitely.) But in her case, it sounds more like indifference to sex than anything else. And yeah, I'd have no problem screwing a girl who's like "meh, whatever" about it. After all, I'm the active one, I'm the one doing the screwing, so she doesn't necessarily have to "fuck me back" in order for it to work.
But doesn't her responding positively make it way better at least? I mean if your horny and like being super dominant I get that you would still bang her. But if it's me that would take out 75% of the fun!
"Re: the wedding night. Nothing to get worried about. You just lay there and let him do his thing."
The OP says she's already worried about having sex with her husband. If she's anxious and not aroused on her wedding night, there's a good chance there'll be no or very little natural vaginal lubrication. Some women find that penetrative sex the first time isn't that uncomfortable and some find it enjoyable. But if a woman has a large amount of hymenal tissue and it's never been stretched or torn by exercise or penetration by an object of some sort, that combined with a relatively dry vagina can make the experience unpleasant. If the guy is clueless and impatient, that can make everything a lot worse.
A terrible first experience of sex can create all sorts of long-lasting issues.
I'm a virgin and never been aroused?
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The "never been aroused" part is normal. Many females don't feel much sexual excitement. And I get that sex and romance are different things. So you could still want a relationship despite not wanting to get down and dirty. But you have to come clean with your fiancé. And also know that you're gonna have to put out as part of the relationship. If you're okay with that, and if he's okay with boning a woman who doesn't desire him all that much (I would be), then you're both good to go. Just be upfront about the deal each of you is signing into.
Re: the wedding night. Nothing to get worried about. You just lay there and let him do his thing. I'm sure he'll be so excited he'll be done with you in a couple of minutes.
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Lol that last part. Also are your serious you would fuck a girl who didn't like it?
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There are asexual people who aren't uncomfortable with sex and have it with their partner just because their partner enjoys it.
Think of it like being indifferent about fishing, but you go fish with your partner anyway because they enjoy it. You don't hate fishing but you have absolutely zero urge to do it.
If it's active dislike or hatred on her part, probably not. (Probably, not definitely.) But in her case, it sounds more like indifference to sex than anything else. And yeah, I'd have no problem screwing a girl who's like "meh, whatever" about it. After all, I'm the active one, I'm the one doing the screwing, so she doesn't necessarily have to "fuck me back" in order for it to work.
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But doesn't her responding positively make it way better at least? I mean if your horny and like being super dominant I get that you would still bang her. But if it's me that would take out 75% of the fun!
"Re: the wedding night. Nothing to get worried about. You just lay there and let him do his thing."
The OP says she's already worried about having sex with her husband. If she's anxious and not aroused on her wedding night, there's a good chance there'll be no or very little natural vaginal lubrication. Some women find that penetrative sex the first time isn't that uncomfortable and some find it enjoyable. But if a woman has a large amount of hymenal tissue and it's never been stretched or torn by exercise or penetration by an object of some sort, that combined with a relatively dry vagina can make the experience unpleasant. If the guy is clueless and impatient, that can make everything a lot worse.
A terrible first experience of sex can create all sorts of long-lasting issues.