I'm a fem.homosexual but I hate the term 'lesbian'

So I'm a female homosexual, but I've always found it more pleasing when people call me 'gay' instead of 'lesbian'. I think it's because I think the word 'lesbian' sound like a mental disease? Gay just sounds more relaxed and normal. Does anyone else feel this way? When someone calls me lesbian, I correct them to gay. It's not about how I feel, but rather how I feel about that word...

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  • I'm the same but for me the reason is different , I don't even like for someone to call me homosexual either because I think my sexuality is my business only , I hope one day people would get over this and treat as the normal/natural thing it is before the judgmental religions made it a sin or whatever.

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    • i feel the same way :) sexuality is just a normal thing that people should accept, like race or skin color!

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  • Gay is sorta a blanket term ain't it? Sorta an "All lesbians are gay but not all gays are lesbian" type thing

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  • Have to be honest here..I have a gay niece, and don't think ever heard her say lesbian. She says gay. That said, though, I also think many gay men or women need to toughen up a bit, stand by their choice, and not get upset at different (of course, non-offensive) terms.

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  • Same, I thought I was the only one....

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  • I'm a guy and I don't care for the term, "lesbian," either. I think it has a rather negative connotation and causes a form of segregation, even among the gay community. I, personally, don't care for any kind of label, really. My sexuality is fluid and ever changing. My wife uses the term pansexual. It's another label, sure, but better describes my sexuality rather than straight, gay, or bi, because, really, I'm none of those and all of those at the same time.

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  • My eyes widened when I saw this post because I thought I was the only one! I've told my friends before how I don't like the word lesbian and they just give me a look. The reason I don't like it is kinda the stigma behind it? Like if someone thinks of a lesbian, probably the first thing that comes into their head is a butch lesbian. There's nothing wrong with being butch, but I just like the assumption that comes with the word. And I've bee made fun of simply because of that word being applicable to me. I dunno maybe I'm wrong too? But I totally understand how you feel

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  • Straight man here. I also dislike the term, entirely because it just sounds strange and ugly. Not the meaning of the word, but just the word itself. For example, words like "phlegm" and "moist", even without their actual definitions, just sound weird and gross to say.

    "Lesbian" is like that for me. It's two syllables longer, and it sounds like they're from some other country where beans are the national crop. Then there's the fact that it's so much less graceful than the female versions of other English words. I prefer to just say "gay".

    I probably wouldn't correct people when they say "lesbian", though, since it is the correct word in regular English.

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  • National Geographic had an article about this. Forgive me since I can only vaguely recall it. But now that homosexuality has been acknowledged nearly on a global scale, there has arisen a new vernacular. For example, some refer to themselves as gender neural, in Thailand they use a word I will not even attempt to write. Maybe with a little research you could find a word you like even more than gay. Then again, if you want to stay "gay" more power to you.

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  • gay is such a nicer term. I'm bisexual but call myself gay because I like that label, and I find the stigma around the word lesbian is because of all the stereotypes and the way that I've heard some men use the word to fetishize it.

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  • Im a lesbian but i prefer the term gay

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  • You're a lesbian. That's right, you do have a mental disorder.

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  • I'm 23f femme and you know I thought I was the only one that feels this way. Good to know I'm not the only one :)

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  • What about rug muncher!

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    • "On the bus to Hebden Bridge" is a great British euphemism for homosexual ladies.

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  • Well Im bisexual but Im more of a girl kinda person

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  • I'm neutral on it, doesn't affect me if people call me that I maybe use it sometimes if I'm trying to get rid of a guy interested in me to send the message straight home, just so that they know that I'm not just a little bit gay.

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  • Lesbians historically are actually bisexual in reality as well as polyamorous in all actuality since that was the norm in that time period.

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  • Gay, lesbian, dyke, all cool with me.

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  • What about queer?

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    • queer doesn't necessarily mean homosexual. I'm homosexual, but I prefer the term gay to lesbian

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      • What does queer mean then ?

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        • queer is like a blanket term for people who are not one of the 'main' sexualities. It can be used for people who aren't quite straight or homo, a little in betweem, or still searching for theirs

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  • and I don't know if this is just me but I don't mind the way it looks spelled out but I can't stand the sound of the word, and also, I hate it because kids used to call me "lesbian" to bully me and the word itself causes me to shudder

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  • Can I call u thespian?

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