How can you just say lose weight without any more information?? Losing weight only makes you more attractive if you are very very very overweight. Vast majority of guys don't see a difference even if you are over what a doctor would say is healthy.
I've gotten this critique before, so I'll try to remember what I said. Less than 2% of Americans are underweight, and I don't imagine it much higher when you factor in all English-speakers (everyone on IIN).
So statistically, I'm going to bet every time that someone who isn't attracting others, isn't underweight. That's why I give the advice when no more information is given.
I'd disagree still because even if you are average or overweight within a certain window, losing weight in general doesn't make you more attractive to most men. Not trying to censor you, at the same time. Also please though make your own decision on this and resist the temptation to say it even more to spite charli
I agree that a woman being 10, 20 pounds overweight will not be a gamebreaker for most men. I'd go so far to say men are less picky than women, but all the more reason for a woman to get her weight in line if she isn't attracting men at all.
Chances are, OP is at weight that simply isn't healthy, if she isn't attracting men at all. It's oversimplified advice, but it's more actionable than the 'go check with your doctor' bull folks often give on IIN. The reality is that no one goes to their doctor for something like this.
Are you in any intramural sports or clubs? Do you go to places where there are guys your age? Most guys won't cold approach you on the street. They have to know you as an acquaintance at least, first.
Agree to disagree. I get you're going for constructive. But there are a lot of healthy girls who don't attract guys for a variety of other reasons. Of course if OP is severely over weight then you're right. But the danger in making the assumption is there are so many girls that are at a healthy weight but still feel the need to lose weight. Idk I've just had a lot of beautiful girls and family close to me with eating disorders/ low self esteem, warped sense of reality so it hits home for me. Totally see you are trying to help with a good heart. I guess it's just chances are she being overweight is the thing I can't see, because I've seen girls at all weights not be approached for different reasons.
I'm 21-guys never ask me out or show much interest.
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How can you just say lose weight without any more information?? Losing weight only makes you more attractive if you are very very very overweight. Vast majority of guys don't see a difference even if you are over what a doctor would say is healthy.
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I've gotten this critique before, so I'll try to remember what I said. Less than 2% of Americans are underweight, and I don't imagine it much higher when you factor in all English-speakers (everyone on IIN).
So statistically, I'm going to bet every time that someone who isn't attracting others, isn't underweight. That's why I give the advice when no more information is given.
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No, last time you received this "critique", you assumed thatt what you wanted to hear was being said and missed the point entirely.
Nothing new.
You are irresponsible as well as stupid, gypsy.
I'd disagree still because even if you are average or overweight within a certain window, losing weight in general doesn't make you more attractive to most men. Not trying to censor you, at the same time. Also please though make your own decision on this and resist the temptation to say it even more to spite charli
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I agree that a woman being 10, 20 pounds overweight will not be a gamebreaker for most men. I'd go so far to say men are less picky than women, but all the more reason for a woman to get her weight in line if she isn't attracting men at all.
Chances are, OP is at weight that simply isn't healthy, if she isn't attracting men at all. It's oversimplified advice, but it's more actionable than the 'go check with your doctor' bull folks often give on IIN. The reality is that no one goes to their doctor for something like this.
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nope, I'm thin. I am 5'6 and weigh 125 pounds but guys never approach or ask me out at all. Only older men will tell me i'm pretty and that's it.
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Are you in any intramural sports or clubs? Do you go to places where there are guys your age? Most guys won't cold approach you on the street. They have to know you as an acquaintance at least, first.
Agree to disagree. I get you're going for constructive. But there are a lot of healthy girls who don't attract guys for a variety of other reasons. Of course if OP is severely over weight then you're right. But the danger in making the assumption is there are so many girls that are at a healthy weight but still feel the need to lose weight. Idk I've just had a lot of beautiful girls and family close to me with eating disorders/ low self esteem, warped sense of reality so it hits home for me. Totally see you are trying to help with a good heart. I guess it's just chances are she being overweight is the thing I can't see, because I've seen girls at all weights not be approached for different reasons.