I'm going to share a personal story. This beautiful 18 yr old girl I know thought like you did. She dated a guy and had his kid and he was very abusive towards her-both physically and mentally, even in public.
If you saw her you'd think she belongs in a fashion magazine. It was really the saddest thing. I tried to help and intervened but there wasn't much I could do. I was also a student and she was living with family.
She deserved better-she was a really good person otherwise but having that child killed her social life and chances for higher education, plus she was being regularly abused by this maniac. Her family had the burden of taking care of her and her child.
Just because something FEELS right, doesn't mean it is. Never substitute reasoning with feelings/emotion. People end up destroying their lives that way.
You're young and naive-listen to people who are older, made mistakes and learned from them and the experiences of others.
If you can't pay your way in the world you will always be a slave of someone who you depend on.
18 is still very young-start worrying when you hit 30. In that time you could get a master's degree if you wanted-or establish a good career.
Children can be wonderful but they are a great deal of work. Where is the money going to come from for the clothes, diapers, medicine, school, etc? Be sensible.
I'm 17 and I seriously want to have a child.
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I'm going to share a personal story. This beautiful 18 yr old girl I know thought like you did. She dated a guy and had his kid and he was very abusive towards her-both physically and mentally, even in public.
If you saw her you'd think she belongs in a fashion magazine. It was really the saddest thing. I tried to help and intervened but there wasn't much I could do. I was also a student and she was living with family.
She deserved better-she was a really good person otherwise but having that child killed her social life and chances for higher education, plus she was being regularly abused by this maniac. Her family had the burden of taking care of her and her child.
Just because something FEELS right, doesn't mean it is. Never substitute reasoning with feelings/emotion. People end up destroying their lives that way.
You're young and naive-listen to people who are older, made mistakes and learned from them and the experiences of others.
If you can't pay your way in the world you will always be a slave of someone who you depend on.
18 is still very young-start worrying when you hit 30. In that time you could get a master's degree if you wanted-or establish a good career.
Children can be wonderful but they are a great deal of work. Where is the money going to come from for the clothes, diapers, medicine, school, etc? Be sensible.