Thanks guys. I have mixed feelings. I feel like my purpose in life is to be a mother. And I feel like it has to happen soon. It's really weird, I will be graduating high school next year, I turn 18 this summer... I feel almost like I'm running out of time to have a baby. It's the weirdest most bizarre reasoning... But I feel like I'm meant to be a teen mother... Don't get mean please, I know it sounds pretty f***ed up..
I'm going to share a personal story. This beautiful 18 yr old girl I know thought like you did. She dated a guy and had his kid and he was very abusive towards her-both physically and mentally, even in public.
If you saw her you'd think she belongs in a fashion magazine. It was really the saddest thing. I tried to help and intervened but there wasn't much I could do. I was also a student and she was living with family.
She deserved better-she was a really good person otherwise but having that child killed her social life and chances for higher education, plus she was being regularly abused by this maniac. Her family had the burden of taking care of her and her child.
Just because something FEELS right, doesn't mean it is. Never substitute reasoning with feelings/emotion. People end up destroying their lives that way.
You're young and naive-listen to people who are older, made mistakes and learned from them and the experiences of others.
If you can't pay your way in the world you will always be a slave of someone who you depend on.
18 is still very young-start worrying when you hit 30. In that time you could get a master's degree if you wanted-or establish a good career.
Children can be wonderful but they are a great deal of work. Where is the money going to come from for the clothes, diapers, medicine, school, etc? Be sensible.
Some women already are past having kids by 22 cos of early menopause or crappy eggs.
Get a fertility doc to check you over. That way at least you know what you're dealing with.
Just because you see a few aged celebs who've had expensive IVF from the best doctors having kids, the reality is not so sweet for most ordinary women.
I'm 17 and I seriously want to have a child.
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Thanks guys. I have mixed feelings. I feel like my purpose in life is to be a mother. And I feel like it has to happen soon. It's really weird, I will be graduating high school next year, I turn 18 this summer... I feel almost like I'm running out of time to have a baby. It's the weirdest most bizarre reasoning... But I feel like I'm meant to be a teen mother... Don't get mean please, I know it sounds pretty f***ed up..
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I'm going to share a personal story. This beautiful 18 yr old girl I know thought like you did. She dated a guy and had his kid and he was very abusive towards her-both physically and mentally, even in public.
If you saw her you'd think she belongs in a fashion magazine. It was really the saddest thing. I tried to help and intervened but there wasn't much I could do. I was also a student and she was living with family.
She deserved better-she was a really good person otherwise but having that child killed her social life and chances for higher education, plus she was being regularly abused by this maniac. Her family had the burden of taking care of her and her child.
Just because something FEELS right, doesn't mean it is. Never substitute reasoning with feelings/emotion. People end up destroying their lives that way.
You're young and naive-listen to people who are older, made mistakes and learned from them and the experiences of others.
If you can't pay your way in the world you will always be a slave of someone who you depend on.
18 is still very young-start worrying when you hit 30. In that time you could get a master's degree if you wanted-or establish a good career.
Children can be wonderful but they are a great deal of work. Where is the money going to come from for the clothes, diapers, medicine, school, etc? Be sensible.
Some women already are past having kids by 22 cos of early menopause or crappy eggs.
Get a fertility doc to check you over. That way at least you know what you're dealing with.
Just because you see a few aged celebs who've had expensive IVF from the best doctors having kids, the reality is not so sweet for most ordinary women.