I'm 22 and i don't think i could be intimate with anyone, am i normal?

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Ok, I'm 22 now, still a virgin, still terrified at the prospect of a relationship or intimacy. Everyone keeps saying I'm still young, but I feel so lonely and disparaged and like nothing will ever change if I carry on doing what I'm doing.

I can't decide if I'm comfortable with it, or that I'm just settling for it, because I can't deal with intimacy or relationships. Heck, I'm barely looking after myself!

Sorry about this post, but I just feel so hopeless sometimes. thanks for any input. I'm gay as well which only adds to the difficulty.

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    You can have those things but you should start by loving yourself first. I'm in the same boat. Found those things and lost them because I wasn't ok with who I was. You're capable.

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  • hotwhitecum4u
    9 years ago

    Normal is outdated. I'm a straight man and get incredibly turned on by lesbian porn. Now I realize that in real life the likelihood of 2 gorgeous women being lesbian, brazilian waxed and totally glam is as unlikely as any similar combination that lacks the photoshopping & lighting of porn films.

    I'm not sure why it is so appealing when I realize there would never be an active role fot myself in that situation. I've done a couple of three ways with 2 girls- which is kind of ridiculous when one considers the fact that women are far more capable of being hyper-orgasmic than men. Though it has nowhere near the appeal I think it would be physiologically more sensible 2 have 2 guys servicing 1 girl.

    One of the most common fantasies girls have told me about is having multiple partners-preferably strangers and preferably safely forcibly. It's even termed a "rape fantasy" though in reality the fantasy is far from the violent act of rape.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    I'm right there with you...

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    there are plenty of gay people in my area and i love them

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I think you sound depressed.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    You'll be fine. There are plenty of people your age who have very little experience with intimacy and relationships; it's just not something people openly discuss. It shouldn't be too difficult to meet someone who's equally inexperienced. If not, the right person will be patient and not care.

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