Ugh, I hate when people start things out with, "It not for me, but for her!!!!" Dude, it's 1020% about you. You're not a bad person for admitting to this, because being kept a secret from your partner's family/friends fucking sucks; because you feel the relationship isn't as real to your partner as it is for you, it begins to feel one-sided.
Yeah, I know you're going to probably be like, "No! She's lying to her family and friends! It's hurting her," or some shit, but it's not. You're hurting. You want everyone to know, which is why you added in the whole, "My parents are the same age gap, what's the problem!?" Understand that your parents were raised in a different time where it was normal for women to wed as soon as possible and have children under the financial security of their husbands; an unwed woman was considered abnormal in those days.
As for why your girlfriend hasn't revealed you yet, ultimately, you'll have to talk to her about it for real answers, but to give possible reasons as to why, here are my guesses:
1. She feels weird about it. Your relationship has gone on for a few months now, so you were probably her first of many ways, and no doubt she spoke to her friends about you. Someone close to her probably informed her how strange it is for an older man to be dating someone so young. With her being at that age, no doubt her friend's opinions matter a lot, probably even more so than you or her parents'
2. She may have asked hypothetical questions about you. This is something everyone has done to gauge how much trouble their in when talking to any authority figure. For example: "Mom, dad, if I were to date someone twice my age... would you guys be mad?" Typically, dad would be like, "I'll kill him. No man that age should be dating a girl so young and with her whole life ahead of her, especially my daughter," and mom reactions may vary (but mostly agree with the husband). Not saying this is what they said, but it's a possibility that if she ever asked this, the response was probably negative.
3. Though unlikely, but possible, she could be growing apart from you. You two are at different stages in life. Nowadays, women aren't pressured to marry and bare children; we're encouraged to live as free like our male counterparts, that means to pursue careers, party, have casual sex, and live until we're ready to settle down. Issue is, some women don't use birth control, or very careless about it and end up getting pregnant by some random; which sadly makes them undesirable because what man wants to raise another man's child? Not saying your girlfriend is having sex, but she's at that age where it's normal to experience all you can without the weight of a relationship and may not be taking this as seriously as you are.
Either way, just talk to her; because none of us will really know.
I'm 29... She is 19. It's been 8 months her parents still don't know
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Ugh, I hate when people start things out with, "It not for me, but for her!!!!" Dude, it's 1020% about you. You're not a bad person for admitting to this, because being kept a secret from your partner's family/friends fucking sucks; because you feel the relationship isn't as real to your partner as it is for you, it begins to feel one-sided.
Yeah, I know you're going to probably be like, "No! She's lying to her family and friends! It's hurting her," or some shit, but it's not. You're hurting. You want everyone to know, which is why you added in the whole, "My parents are the same age gap, what's the problem!?" Understand that your parents were raised in a different time where it was normal for women to wed as soon as possible and have children under the financial security of their husbands; an unwed woman was considered abnormal in those days.
As for why your girlfriend hasn't revealed you yet, ultimately, you'll have to talk to her about it for real answers, but to give possible reasons as to why, here are my guesses:
1. She feels weird about it. Your relationship has gone on for a few months now, so you were probably her first of many ways, and no doubt she spoke to her friends about you. Someone close to her probably informed her how strange it is for an older man to be dating someone so young. With her being at that age, no doubt her friend's opinions matter a lot, probably even more so than you or her parents'
2. She may have asked hypothetical questions about you. This is something everyone has done to gauge how much trouble their in when talking to any authority figure. For example: "Mom, dad, if I were to date someone twice my age... would you guys be mad?" Typically, dad would be like, "I'll kill him. No man that age should be dating a girl so young and with her whole life ahead of her, especially my daughter," and mom reactions may vary (but mostly agree with the husband). Not saying this is what they said, but it's a possibility that if she ever asked this, the response was probably negative.
3. Though unlikely, but possible, she could be growing apart from you. You two are at different stages in life. Nowadays, women aren't pressured to marry and bare children; we're encouraged to live as free like our male counterparts, that means to pursue careers, party, have casual sex, and live until we're ready to settle down. Issue is, some women don't use birth control, or very careless about it and end up getting pregnant by some random; which sadly makes them undesirable because what man wants to raise another man's child? Not saying your girlfriend is having sex, but she's at that age where it's normal to experience all you can without the weight of a relationship and may not be taking this as seriously as you are.
Either way, just talk to her; because none of us will really know.