Dude, love is a blessing but it can feel like a curse and here's why: you care way too much about what other people think of you, to the point of being dishonest with yourself and others. You seem to think the world is black and white, right and wrong, etc. The world is not that easy. The label of 'gay' might not fit you, but you might be bisexual or fluid and not realize it. People fall in love with other people and sexual orientation sometimes goes out the window. You have some choices to make. You can live your life the way you think other people will approve of, or you can live your life the way you need to live your life to be a real, honest and self-aware man. You can be bisexual or gay or fluid or whtever and still be a good role model to others. It seems to me your BFF is having the same issues. Do yourself a favor. Call him and tell him that you care about him very much and try to have a nice conversation with him. Try to be honest as you can without giving away your deepest feelings. Ask him how he feels about you. The Christianity thing seems like a cop-out to me. There are plenty of good, gay Christians. If you all attend a religion that judges, condemns and hates others, well, you need to find a new church. In the end, a man is honest about himself and his emotions. You will regret being dishonest as the years pass. Life is short and love is a beautiful thing. Your love for your BFF is a good thing and it may or may not end in a gay-type of deal, but friends are honest with each other. Be wise and don't scare him by throwing all your deepest emotions at him all at once, maybe just start with a 'you are a very important person in my life, and I miss you very much'.
I love my best friend, we're both guys.
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Dude, love is a blessing but it can feel like a curse and here's why: you care way too much about what other people think of you, to the point of being dishonest with yourself and others. You seem to think the world is black and white, right and wrong, etc. The world is not that easy. The label of 'gay' might not fit you, but you might be bisexual or fluid and not realize it. People fall in love with other people and sexual orientation sometimes goes out the window. You have some choices to make. You can live your life the way you think other people will approve of, or you can live your life the way you need to live your life to be a real, honest and self-aware man. You can be bisexual or gay or fluid or whtever and still be a good role model to others. It seems to me your BFF is having the same issues. Do yourself a favor. Call him and tell him that you care about him very much and try to have a nice conversation with him. Try to be honest as you can without giving away your deepest feelings. Ask him how he feels about you. The Christianity thing seems like a cop-out to me. There are plenty of good, gay Christians. If you all attend a religion that judges, condemns and hates others, well, you need to find a new church. In the end, a man is honest about himself and his emotions. You will regret being dishonest as the years pass. Life is short and love is a beautiful thing. Your love for your BFF is a good thing and it may or may not end in a gay-type of deal, but friends are honest with each other. Be wise and don't scare him by throwing all your deepest emotions at him all at once, maybe just start with a 'you are a very important person in my life, and I miss you very much'.