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My parents gave me permission to "date" an older guy. but they dont like it AT ALL. i feel bad because it's hard to want to do something my parents dont like. but i really love him. Is it wrong for me to love and date him even though my parents dont agree. what if it hurts them?
i'm 31 and still care what my parents would think of a guy i date. for example they wouldn't accept different race, religion. and i know this about them so i don't go against this.i stick to a certain criteria when looking for a guy.
as long as he treats you well, doesn't do drugs and has your best interest in mine, your parents are wrong. They don't want to see you grow up.
Ive only ever dated guys about 10 years older than me because, I found them much more mature and less frat boy. Im sure they will get to like him if hes a good guy, it may take some time .
I dont know how old the guy is and I do not know your age. So I can not awnser this.
I am in your same situation but I'm out of my parents house. I am 20 and my fiance is 37. I love him to death and my mother hates him. My dad I'm not so sure he just respects my decisions. I know that it gets under my skin that my mother doesn't approve because this is the man of my dreams the love of my life the father of my child and my soon to be husband. Your parents don't have to live your life you do. This is 100% your decision.
It's your life not your parents. You should listen to their advices but don't follow everything they say like dogma.
I agree with JoeyAnne .. you should respect your parents..
And considering an advice a married woman gave me (I'm 19 btw).. your parents know what's better for you; when they say he's not the one for you, they mean it. They are your parents, they want you to be happy and they don't want to give you away to someone who would bring you troubles later on. Maybe they saw something in that guy that you can't see? It's totally normal cause you're in love with him. Plus something that I Truly believe in. They were here first.. they experienced this life before you and they know alot more than you do. (I found it hard at first cause I thought that my situation is always different, but it's all the same story)
It saddens me cos I let go someone I truly loved but I left him cause it would have never worked out in the end cause my father hates Pakistanis (Although he was such a good guy). But, it wasn't just that the reason.. But, anyway my father's opinion pushed me to let go of it. And I discovered later.. like after 2 years of the break up.. that that guy was never good for me.. But, I still love him anyway. But being crazy about someone doesn't mean that you have to be with him. Another story a married woman told me .. that her sister was so in love with a guy .. her parents did not agree.. and she insisted on him and refused any other. She got married to the one she loves.. And then they got divorced after 2 years of marriage. It's only an example.. But, there are those who could be married till the end of their lives.
All what I'm saying.. Listen to your parents.
I think it depends on how old you are. I believe that you should respect your parents, and at the same time, they should respect you. Your parents should respect your decision, and you should respect what your parents are trying to do for you. It's cliche to say that they know what's best for you, but it is true. This guy you're dating, I'm sure you love him. But unless this guys gonna ask you to marry him, he may not be someone as constant as your parents. If marriage is not the likely course in your relationship, this guy wont last as long as your parents. But I wish you luck :)
psh , screw what your parents think! if you love him go for it!..... atleast he isnt dieing. i mean your parrents have no right to choose who you can and cant love.
If you love him I wouldn't worry about what your parents think. I love my boyfriend and my dad hates him just because he's half black. Its like you love him so be with him. Shouldn't matter what your parents think but how much older is he than you?
Well you've got a good point. I have a similar situation. he guy i love, my mom hates. ugh it makes me mad. but i think you should stay with this guy. love is a really strong thing, and if your in love with him then dont let him slip out of your fingers :]