I lost my trust in my guy bestfriend. what should i do?

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we are friends from university, its been 5 years of our friendship. now university has finished. and we are in contact with each other on daily basis.
In university life i feel ditched as he used to talk about my appearance a lot and he hides many things from me. Once i told him that don't get too much involve with me specific friend(she was jealous of our friendship) i told him reasons
i don't trust her. He always shows yes we are friends are close i understand she is not your real friend. but he didn't listen to me, at first he said yes you are important to me but he keeps doing same thing . and that leads to trust failure. now that girl is not close to me anymore (there are many little things that drift us apart).

After university the guy felt guilt but he didn't show me but he calls me daily and tell me everything about his life. and shows me how much he miss me and always mention you are my bestfriend etc.. like he is showing to me you are my best friend.and i have no space for Bestfriend for him..

After seeing all this i felt he is my close one as he knows everything about me, i also dont want to lose my friend even though i lost trust in him. so i also express he is very close to me and we are bestfriends forever to remove his guilt.

but now i feel like i have ditched my self by doing this.
and now he wants and shows that he is very important to me more than any one else.
and truth is... Now i don't have enough value for him.. but still i told him earlier yes he is because i felt he is in guilt.
i am very depress about this situation. should i tell him that i dont trust him anymore? on other side if he keeps thinking that still i have enough space for me like a bestfriend that keeps trigging me alot. Because like this he would has expectations from me , and i am not able to fulfil that. but on other side i dont want to lose him but as he expects me alot now i have fear if he is depending on my words. what should i do?

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    advice from an old timer you can never have too many best friends.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    I think that you were wrong for trying to control who he was friends with. He did nothing untrustworthy, you had unreasonable expectations you would not have liked if he had placed on you. Now you can't forgive him for what he did that was not even wrong. And are telling him you care more than you do. Think about how good of a friend You are being and work on that rather than trying to change him

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