He is 31. I think his brothers kind of did pick on him but only because it's hard to recognize that it's his mental illness that makes him act the way he does sometimes or do the things he does sometimes. For example, he would pawn his mother's jewelry or anything else that he thought had value even thought it wasn't his. He constantly throws temper tantrums and destroys stuff around the house too. He is very messy and does not know how to do his own laundry or even clean up after himself.
Truthfully, i think that most of that bad behavior happened whenever he would decide to stop taking his meds because he thought he didn't need them anymore. If there is one thing I could tell you it's take your meds as ordered by your doctor no matter what. Because whenever he would be doing well, he would stop his meds and then everything would go to sh*t.
As far as the issue with women, he went a very long time without a girlfriend, probably more than 10 years. For whatever reason, the past 2 years, he had 2 different girlfriends and one of them is serious now supposedly.
It is nice to see him somewhat finally getting his life on track even without a job. He's got an apartment and a girlfriend now, which is more than i ever seen him accomplish and I been in the picture 7 years now. I have never had any personal problems with him but my brother in law's wife does all the time (shes only been in the picture for like 3 years including dating) she will always find a way to start something with him and she even started with me, so we tend to steer clear of her. Other than that, i think its only a matter of the family needs to understand that sometimes the things you do is because of the illness.
its kinda different with me like i can clean for my self and wash my own cloth's and stuff but i have not had a girlfriend are sex for years like 3 years and trully i never had a girlfriend that i really liked alot. and when i do get a girlfriend i be scared to tell other's that i'm not scared to be alone and people know it but i am scared to have a girlfriend and people knowing it.
like the last girlfriend i had in 5 years was 2 and both of them i try to keep them a secret among my family but not my nephew.
i wish my family help me with getting a girlfriend are getting a job are getting help.
biggest regret i have is my sex life i gave up so many beautiful women so much good sex its not like i dont want them and its not like i dont want sex in fact its killing me. its just i think ima get judged wrongly and besides my emotions are to sensitive i got to fix on that myself.
its sad cause i have 1 bro and 3 sister's and none teach me about women and sex only one my young sister but that did't turn out well only cause wat she was teaching me was sick to me.
You should probably see a doctor and find out what medication is right for you. Once you find a medication that works, you go with that. Also continue to seek help with the housing and all of that. The first step to getting your life on track is find a doctor and be put on meds.
I have no clue if he was scared tosee a doctor when he started having problems, but I can imagine so. I'm scared to see doctors too and so are a lot of people but if you really need help and trying to fix it by yourself is not working there comes a point where you have to admit to yourself that you need professional help and need to seek a doctor in order to get the help you need. Think of your brain and your mental well being as just as much a part of your body as anything else (which it truly is). If you had a broken leg, you would need medical treatment, correct? You wouldn't just keep on living with that broken leg would you? You have to do what is best for you in order for you to better your life.
Also I should add that I think it may be even harder for you to seek help because it doesn't sound like your family is very supportive at all. My friend has a very supportive mom who got him to seek help as soon as possible. It doesn't sound like you have anything like that for you. It sounds like you have to be brave now and do whats best for you, look after yourself best you can. There is no shame in seeing a doctor, they are there to help.
thank you all most made me cry i can feel the compassion in your wirting and your right about everything i never had any support and no love no compassion just being told what to do and being yelled at most my life.
but i would like to add that i had done good things with my family like we have are good days and good moments but its rare and my aunt did so much for me its more like my personal problem also with mixed with alot of other stuff.
i had good moments in my life with my family but i nothing like love are compassion but i can say my family had there own problems serious problems them selves i just think they did't had are where given love so was not been able to show me love.
all i do all day everyday is be on the computer and watch tv i may cook dinner tho and clean up check the mail but never had a job scared to get a job scared to work hard i feel like most the time rather then anything else.
and i refuse anyone to help me cause again i think they mite hurt me cause there's people out there that well win your trust and then destroy you afther words.
i'm so terrified to be homeless and to be indipendient i'm scared to make choices my self i'm just scared to live.
if i had a family like him that show me there heart and that tell me they love me and have good morals and show they love me rather then play mind games on and off then i well be good.
imagen someone you trusted to konw something about you that would hurt you badly i'm not saying bad i mean make you feel like killing your self then they use this on you on and off to destroy you and control you and leave you defenceless and also make other ppeople hate you.
i live off my mom and dad and i'm 26
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He is 31. I think his brothers kind of did pick on him but only because it's hard to recognize that it's his mental illness that makes him act the way he does sometimes or do the things he does sometimes. For example, he would pawn his mother's jewelry or anything else that he thought had value even thought it wasn't his. He constantly throws temper tantrums and destroys stuff around the house too. He is very messy and does not know how to do his own laundry or even clean up after himself.
Truthfully, i think that most of that bad behavior happened whenever he would decide to stop taking his meds because he thought he didn't need them anymore. If there is one thing I could tell you it's take your meds as ordered by your doctor no matter what. Because whenever he would be doing well, he would stop his meds and then everything would go to sh*t.
As far as the issue with women, he went a very long time without a girlfriend, probably more than 10 years. For whatever reason, the past 2 years, he had 2 different girlfriends and one of them is serious now supposedly.
It is nice to see him somewhat finally getting his life on track even without a job. He's got an apartment and a girlfriend now, which is more than i ever seen him accomplish and I been in the picture 7 years now. I have never had any personal problems with him but my brother in law's wife does all the time (shes only been in the picture for like 3 years including dating) she will always find a way to start something with him and she even started with me, so we tend to steer clear of her. Other than that, i think its only a matter of the family needs to understand that sometimes the things you do is because of the illness.
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its kinda different with me like i can clean for my self and wash my own cloth's and stuff but i have not had a girlfriend are sex for years like 3 years and trully i never had a girlfriend that i really liked alot. and when i do get a girlfriend i be scared to tell other's that i'm not scared to be alone and people know it but i am scared to have a girlfriend and people knowing it.
like the last girlfriend i had in 5 years was 2 and both of them i try to keep them a secret among my family but not my nephew.
i wish my family help me with getting a girlfriend are getting a job are getting help.
biggest regret i have is my sex life i gave up so many beautiful women so much good sex its not like i dont want them and its not like i dont want sex in fact its killing me. its just i think ima get judged wrongly and besides my emotions are to sensitive i got to fix on that myself.
its sad cause i have 1 bro and 3 sister's and none teach me about women and sex only one my young sister but that did't turn out well only cause wat she was teaching me was sick to me.
i hate my family so much sooooooooooo much.
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You should probably see a doctor and find out what medication is right for you. Once you find a medication that works, you go with that. Also continue to seek help with the housing and all of that. The first step to getting your life on track is find a doctor and be put on meds.
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i keep being told that but i'm scared to see a doctor.
is this normal have your friend been scared also to see a doctor
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I have no clue if he was scared tosee a doctor when he started having problems, but I can imagine so. I'm scared to see doctors too and so are a lot of people but if you really need help and trying to fix it by yourself is not working there comes a point where you have to admit to yourself that you need professional help and need to seek a doctor in order to get the help you need. Think of your brain and your mental well being as just as much a part of your body as anything else (which it truly is). If you had a broken leg, you would need medical treatment, correct? You wouldn't just keep on living with that broken leg would you? You have to do what is best for you in order for you to better your life.
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Also I should add that I think it may be even harder for you to seek help because it doesn't sound like your family is very supportive at all. My friend has a very supportive mom who got him to seek help as soon as possible. It doesn't sound like you have anything like that for you. It sounds like you have to be brave now and do whats best for you, look after yourself best you can. There is no shame in seeing a doctor, they are there to help.
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thank you all most made me cry i can feel the compassion in your wirting and your right about everything i never had any support and no love no compassion just being told what to do and being yelled at most my life.
but i would like to add that i had done good things with my family like we have are good days and good moments but its rare and my aunt did so much for me its more like my personal problem also with mixed with alot of other stuff.
i had good moments in my life with my family but i nothing like love are compassion but i can say my family had there own problems serious problems them selves i just think they did't had are where given love so was not been able to show me love.
all i do all day everyday is be on the computer and watch tv i may cook dinner tho and clean up check the mail but never had a job scared to get a job scared to work hard i feel like most the time rather then anything else.
and i refuse anyone to help me cause again i think they mite hurt me cause there's people out there that well win your trust and then destroy you afther words.
i'm so terrified to be homeless and to be indipendient i'm scared to make choices my self i'm just scared to live.
if i had a family like him that show me there heart and that tell me they love me and have good morals and show they love me rather then play mind games on and off then i well be good.
imagen someone you trusted to konw something about you that would hurt you badly i'm not saying bad i mean make you feel like killing your self then they use this on you on and off to destroy you and control you and leave you defenceless and also make other ppeople hate you.