I like to talk about having sex, teasing,touching, but not have sex?

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Hi guys,

I have a problem, and I'm not able to find the answer anywhere on the internet. I'm a girl,
and I'm also dating a girl (not that it matters, I'm just stating) and I think I got a problem.

I'll just get right to the point. I love to talk dirty to my girlfriend, getting onto her lap, being a tease, etc, but there's one problem. I know doing all these things will probably lead up to us having sex, and I love doing those things, but I hate to actually have sex. I know, it's pretty weird. I don't identify as Asexual, because I do love the thought of having sex, and I masturbate quite a lot as well. And mostly, when we're having sex, I enjoy it. It's just the whole "getting there" that I hate, I guess. I get "horny" as well but for some reason I never really feel the need to have sex. This also isn't my girlfriends problem, because I've had this with every person I dated.

My girlfriend usually starts saying dirty things, being touchy etc, and I laugh and do so too, because I want to. Mostly I notice her being more touchy and more touchy, and though I do enjoy being touched my her, I say "Babe, come on, stop it. We're watching tv" or whatever reason I can come up with to not have sex. I can feel when we're about to have sex, and I just cut it off the second I think it's coming. I've never started teasing and touching etc.

She is always the one that starts. When we're having sex, I don't hate it. I think it feels great, but it's mostly the "getting there" that bothers me so much. And when we do have sex, it's okay, yeah, but it's not like I feel it was worth my time to have sex, when I was having a great time just doing something else with her like snuggling on the couch or anything. I have never told this problem to any of my ex's or my current girlfriend, because I've looked this problem up, and can't find anything. I'm scared to tell her, because (I think) there's not really a name for this? I don't HATE sex. I just don't really enjoy it, but (again) I don't identify as asexual. I've noticed all my previous girlfriends always wanted to have way more sex than I did, and I just thought they were waayyy too over-sexual, but I'm starting to think it's not them. It's me being NOT sexual.

If it was up to me, I'd WANT to have sex, but not actually have it? Yeah, that's basically it. I WANT to have sex, but I don't actually... do it? Example.. If I had the only say in the relationship, I'd really want her to have sex with me, get touchy and feely when I think about it, but not actually DO it?

Could anyone please explain what I'm feeling? Or tell me it's normal? Is it even normal?

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  • ieatcunt
    7 years ago | pl

    You need COCK

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago | pl

    You are asexual, just accept it. Everything you wrote screams it.

    To clear up one thing that kept bothering me, understand that asexuals can enjoy sex or sex related activities as much as anyone else, but they lack that sexual attraction. You're not a cunt tease, you don't need a dick, you just need to read this and calm down: http://www.asexuality.org/home/?q=overview.html

    You're normal.

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  • xfg21
    7 years ago | pl

    shove a steaming corn cob up your cunt

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  • WinterStormGuy_Of_Feb9,1968
    7 years ago | pl

    Maybe you want to engage in foreplay only and have no sex?
    But maybe your a pussy tease hard to say but only you know what you want.

    I think you might scare her away cause she may get sexually frustrated with that and you could make her so wet that she needs to take care of things herself.

    Hunnie, maybe your afraid of penetration with sex toys
    or engaging in a sexual relationship, these things happen
    maybe you lose your sex drive when it comes to the point
    of going full with having sexual intercourse with her.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago | pl

    When I was lesbian I was involved with someone like you and guess what? All that teasing drove me crazy and although I loved her to bits, I dumped her as a lover. It's called cunt teasing by the way and is cruel and manipulative.

    Her ambivalence was a result of childhood sexual abuse, but she wouldn't access counselling and thirty years later still hasn't, so now has no relationships at all.

    You need to sort out what your mixed responses are about before the same thing happens to you: you're not being fair to your girlfriend or to yourself to let this continue.

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  • McBean
    7 years ago | pl

    You need to try a hot stiff cock. It may sound scary, but be brave and experience that ultimate satisfaction.

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