I think you should try to wean yourself off such practices (no pun intended). Obviously, it's not the most desirable thing in the world to lack the happy childhood memories that some people have so it can be tempting to want to go back and re-live it or hold on to a little of it, but the reality is that the whole point of childhood is growing up and becoming an adult. That said, it's perfectly normal, healthy and mature to want to be loved, held, cuddled, sung to, etc. (although I can't include spanking with that), and as long as one is willing to love and comfort in return, then these things are good and desirable no matter how outwardly tough one is. As for revealing your 'secret' to another person, it depends on how understanding that person is. Speaking for myself, if I really cared about the person telling me, I wouldn't be bothered by being told about it. In fact, I would feel pleased that I was considered to be trustworthy and understanding enough to be confided in. That said, I wouldn't go along with joining in with the fantasy-play (or at least not in any way that went beyond an occasional, innocent, jokey kind of thing), because, as I said, I think it's something that one should try to give up. But I would try to help the other person move beyond it, and I certainly wouldn't just drop them and run away. On the other hand, different people have different levels of ability to cope with surprising, sensitive revelations and to be understanding about these kind of things. So it really does depend on the person. But either way, I think, as I said, that the best thing of all would be simply to start trying as best you can to move beyond it. Maybe you could try to replace it with some constructive and wholesome but traditionally 'girly' activity, like making cakes, needle-craft, collecting fancy stationary, making pretty little objects, or whatever. Something that would be a nice, pleasant outlet for your feminine, girlish side but that would still be an 'adult' activity, something 'soft' and 'girly' as a little break from engineering/military matters.
I like to be treated like a young child?
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I think you should try to wean yourself off such practices (no pun intended). Obviously, it's not the most desirable thing in the world to lack the happy childhood memories that some people have so it can be tempting to want to go back and re-live it or hold on to a little of it, but the reality is that the whole point of childhood is growing up and becoming an adult. That said, it's perfectly normal, healthy and mature to want to be loved, held, cuddled, sung to, etc. (although I can't include spanking with that), and as long as one is willing to love and comfort in return, then these things are good and desirable no matter how outwardly tough one is. As for revealing your 'secret' to another person, it depends on how understanding that person is. Speaking for myself, if I really cared about the person telling me, I wouldn't be bothered by being told about it. In fact, I would feel pleased that I was considered to be trustworthy and understanding enough to be confided in. That said, I wouldn't go along with joining in with the fantasy-play (or at least not in any way that went beyond an occasional, innocent, jokey kind of thing), because, as I said, I think it's something that one should try to give up. But I would try to help the other person move beyond it, and I certainly wouldn't just drop them and run away. On the other hand, different people have different levels of ability to cope with surprising, sensitive revelations and to be understanding about these kind of things. So it really does depend on the person. But either way, I think, as I said, that the best thing of all would be simply to start trying as best you can to move beyond it. Maybe you could try to replace it with some constructive and wholesome but traditionally 'girly' activity, like making cakes, needle-craft, collecting fancy stationary, making pretty little objects, or whatever. Something that would be a nice, pleasant outlet for your feminine, girlish side but that would still be an 'adult' activity, something 'soft' and 'girly' as a little break from engineering/military matters.