I like my boyfriend's family more than mine

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I was nervous to meet my boyfriend's family at first but I did a few months ago and they rock. They are so supportive and loving. My family is not. My mom has some psychiatric issues that she has since taken care of but I still don't forgive her for my awful childhood. My dad's alright but he disaproves of my choices and I know it. I like my boyfriend's family more than mine and it really depresses me. Maybe this is because I never had to live with them so I only see their good side. I really don't know. Normal or not?

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  • imacomputer
    13 years ago

    your last three sentences sums it up.
    It's because you don't live with them.

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  • LAW13
    13 years ago

    My husband has the parents I always wanted. They are so much- even though this makes me feel guilty to say- better than my parents.

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  • MyDarkestHour_x
    14 years ago

    My fiance loves my family more then his definatly. And you and him sound like you're in a the same boat or his might even be a sinking one. His mother has a huge drug and alcohol addiction and apparently when he lived with her she used to beat him and what not. (I've never met her and I've been with him a year this month, by the way.) And his Dad is super obsessed with the end of the world and religion, even though he's actually a serious pothead and hypocrite and has actually tried to make him drop out of school before and lots more.

    But he loves and turns to my family more because we actually love and support him like his family does or ever has. So you're probably reacting the same way.

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    • MyDarkestHour_x
      14 years ago

      unlike his family who never does and never has*
      Sorry, typo.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    well then dont get married to him, bc then youll start disliking them!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Normal - just because you like things about your bf's family - or anyone else's family - doesn't mean you have to feel guilty about your own family's short-comings. We don't get to choose the family we are born to, but we get choices later on, thank goodness. Try to accept both your good & bad luck. On the latter - you can't entirely help how you felt about being mistreated earlier, or your dad's current negativity. I'm glad for you that some good things are coming your way. You deserve it.

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  • Silencio
    15 years ago

    i think this is perfectly normal, because you are using the other family as a kind of substitute, because they have qualities that you wish you family had

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  • likeomgitsjessy
    15 years ago

    no worry's most people like there gfs or bfs family more then theirs

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  • tornwithin
    15 years ago

    hey im 21 and i met my bfs fam last year and i like them way more than my family but my fam has been arguing and fighting quite a bit cuz were sick of living together lol so im moving to my bfs town and his moms mom treated her like my mom does me and she says she sees my pain and wants to help me. shes awesome and so nice and his whole family is funny and cool and i like being around them way more i feel uncomfortable around mine cuz we fight too much but maybe thatll change once i move out and get space.. but yaa i totally know how u feel

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  • bittyboobs
    15 years ago

    I'm 21 if that matters.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    maybe they are kooler yes but u have to accept what u have its life....

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  • clare1234
    15 years ago

    thats totally normal. spend more time with them. how old are you? cos i have a few suggestions but it depends on your ages etc. xxxx

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