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I like when my boyfriend fingers me, kisses me, eats me out and has hot sex with me but when he asks me to give him a hand job or suck his dick I get scared.. I don't know how or what he would do cause what if I do it wrong or something? Is this normal? Helpppp pweaseee!
First of all, it is totally normal to be afraid of the unknown; and we all want to please our partners, so wanting to do it right, or, conversely, being afraid of doing it badly, is also totally normal. I would suggest looking at some pornography, except that so much of it is crap and most guys I know don't like the ridiculous exaggerated way the BJs are done in those "movies". The best thing is to tell him your concerns, tell him you want to please him and ask him to tell you what he likes and to tell you when you are getting it right. Just don't be sensitive about him saying that something you're doing isn't exactly right ... or that something actually hurts, or is uncomfortable.
A few basics: No teeth! except for VERY playful, gentle, pretend bites ... WHEN he's watching you; follow that up with an equally gentle, make-up kiss; running your lips up and down the shaft; licking; and of course deep-throating are liked by most men; though if you gag easily, stop short of that, until you've practiced (on a dildo) most guys do NOT like to choke their beloved.Also, wrapping a hand around the shaft and running it up and down the shaft at the same time adds to the stimulation, but make sure there's plenty of saliva; DON'T spit unless he asks you to ... I don't know a single guy who likes that and most think it's totally disrespectful ... that said, some guys DO like it, find out which he is BEFORE you do it.
In general, it turns a guy on to have your actions seem almost like penis worship: respectful and loving ... and show that you like doing it.
Finally, swallowing: it's not easy the first time, so better to only try a little ... gagging, spitting and most certainly puking are NOT sexy. If you REALLY hate it too much to avoid barfing, then tell him you love giving the BJ, but can't handle the swallowing: most guys will understand, but give yourself a chance to get used to it. Good luck.
i dont think there is such a thing as a bad blowie just that some are better than others, practice is the key, practice practice practice, i will bet if you take his cock in your mouth, look up at him with your big, innocent eyes like you have never done this before, the poor bastard probably wont last long enough for you to make a mistake...