I like being a sugar mama?

Im 31 but Im broke if you're interested

It depends on your motive for it. As long as you can afford it and are not hurting yourself or others, I don't see why you shouldn't do it if it's what you like.

However, this is a very easy way to get used (though it seems like this is what you're looking for if you are wanting to be a "sugar mama"), and it could also possibly enable these young men to be dependent on another person instead of growing and learning to provide for themselves. I guess if they're into the sugar mama/baby thing, they're probably not too interested in that, though (though my concern would be, what's going to happen when they get old and nobody wants to "baby" them? Not my monkey, not my circus, I guess...).

Sounds as if you like being the care type to younger men. I say this is normal as long as you are not stepping on an bounadaries.

Not really a sugar mama at 30, you’re hardly older than them lol. Just an idiot who gives away their stuff.

You sound like a dream. How can I contact you? Or would you hit me up. Mami?

Yes, that is very very kind of you! Wonderful! Wish you and your sugar babies all the best!

Not really a sugar mama. You're just incredibly generous.

I actually likely understand very much what you are trying to do and why.

I'm proud of you and what I believe you are trying to do.

I too liked the idea of assisting other people in life.. and for a long time I figured that sending them money and paying their bills, buying them things, giving gifts, etc. was the way to do it. I felt good about it too...

I also like helping females over men - and also sought out Ladies from various help sites (including Sugar Dad sites as a mentor only).

What I learned (and it took over $40,000 [perhaps $60,000 my wife and I stopped counting in my financial records when we reached $40,000] over several decades to learn this) was that in virtually all cases giving people money, gifts, paying bills, etc. did not actually change anything for the better. At best it bought them some time until they had to face up to some facts about their life and options. At worst - it made them more dependent. There were at only 3 exceptions to this where my $ and time actually changed their lives for the better long term.

Towards the end of this timeline I had started to also give people certain self help books... and I found that those that read those books improved their lives far beyond the cost of the book.

Thus I changed my way of assisting people to mentor-ship. Providing books and advice. It's not uncommon at all for those willing to improve themselves to be able to increase their income by up to 50% within 6 months of starting to work for me (best result was $30,000 pay raise within 3 weeks of meeting me in person the 1st time - which I think took only 2 books with some interviewing advice).

So now I give away books and advice to those willing to improve themselves and build their own better future (and they have to be relatively close so we can meet in person: Eastern Wisconsin, perhaps northern Illinois and perhaps the lower parts of Upper Michigan).

Money is restricted to only those situations where it will produce a measurable change in their abilities or situation so that they can make a step change in their lives.

This also cuts out the fraudsters and scam artists.

There was a time when I used to supply money for various things: I need to get my car fixed (etc.) - and I'd send them money.

Then I changed tactics: OK what kind of car/truck do you have and where is the nearest good repair shop. I'd then call up the shop and arrange them to fix the car - and charge it to my CC. I had not a single person get their car fixed on my dime... I got called very colorful names by everyone who I offered to fix their car. They were all scammers and just wanted my $$$ In one case I later found out that they were so successful as scammers that they drove a current year Mercedes Benz (2 year lease). Fix their Chevy breaks... No wonder they did not take me up on that.

I've done this with clothing for a job interview, and only had 1 Lady allow me to take her shopping for job interview and work clothing (she was very appreciative). My wife has been very supportive of this (including reminding me that all good interview outfits start with nice bras and underwear). Been cursed out by many others as what was I a pervert... for suggesting that is where we start (the lady who took me up was very willing and appreciative to get nice underthings) All the others wanted was my $$$ - and obviously not for interview & nice work clothing.

Kinds of things I have funded:

"The Ultimate" Drivers education package with a driving school where she could spend as many hours as needed to learn to drive, and use the driving schools car for her drivers license road test. Being able to drive to and from work and events changed her job opportunities and life. Huge change for the positive.

Engineering work station with specific $$$$ software for a small machine shop. Allowed him to tipple his machine shop business in 6 months moving from essentially no business profit (no actual personal income) to highly profitable and being able to support his family.

I have one case of supplying a phone with a prepayment of several months phone service and a monthly bus pass to allow a person to find and start a job. They did, and no longer needed my assistance after that.

I have found money works if it allows a person to make a step change in their lives. Otherwise, books and advice works much better - and clearly identifies those willing to learn and improve and the fakers. Only 20% read the 1st book, and only half of that read a 2nd book.

Many people have made significant improvements in their life from the 1st book. I mainly work with people who read the 2nd book and continue beyond that. The longest I have provided books and advice is 2.5 years. The change in that person's lives was massive.

Books are a lot cheaper that providing money and gifts... Typical book is in the $10-$20 range (a few are up to $40). Trivial money compared to what I used to give away.

I also buy coffee, tea, soft drinks, etc. when we meet as well. Nice dinners/lunches and events are rewards for achieving certain goals (1st one is after completing and discussing 2 books). All work and no play does not work well...

I wish you the best success in your assisting others in life. It's OK that you chose guys as its OK that I preferentially chose Ladies for those I look for on the internet. I do help guys that I meet in person or by other means. I also like working with couples. I just don't look for them on internet sites.

Noice