I lied about losing my virginity

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I've been lying to my best friend about losing my virginity at 14 since we started being friends SIX years ago.

I remember it like it was yesterday. We were on the phone and she was telling about some loser who she'd been banging and she interrupted the story to say "well you wouldn't know cause you haven't done it yet." She wasn't being sarcastic or mean or anything, i think she was talking about the initial pain of breaking your hymen. Anyway, for some reason, this offended me, we were in the first stages of our friendship and I wanted to look cool so I was like "OMG um..duh I do!" Of course, she was intrigued, I went on to tell her that I'd slept with this guy like ages before that.

So, now she thinks I've been in the sl*t game since i was a wee babe when in truth, I lost my virginity at EIGHTEEN. When *I* was mature enough to handle it. I wish I could tell her the truth but I'm afraid she would never trust me again (and that I'd look totally psychotic) because too much time has passed and I've really kept the lie going. My other friends know the truth but I love her like a sister and no one comes close to her in the friend department.

I know if I told her she would understand why I'm so infatuated with this guy (my first) who she thinks is just this random guy I'm sleeping with. Is this normal?

God it felt good to get that out :)

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  • JillV
    14 years ago

    I think we all lie about sex when we are teens.
    It's a confusing time for many people and sex can seem so complicated.
    Don't feel ashamed.I would tell her the truth.If she honestly gets mad about it,then SHE is the psycho one.A true friend would understand!

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  • Simply_Abnormal
    13 years ago

    Everyone lies when they feel under pressure; although you shouldn't have pretended to have as I she is your friend - she would have understood.

    Peer pressure gets to everyone eventually and its completely normal to give in.

    I am sure you don't actually have to come out and tell her....but I think you should. I dont think it would change your friendship at all...

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  • Winnie
    13 years ago

    Yes, its normal to want to have something in common with another. Especially a friend, even if it is as stupid as when and who you lost your virginity to. And you should tell her the truth if it hurts you to keep this a secret. If she is a true friend she'll understand and let it go since it just some dumb fact that happened in the past.

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  • uncommon1
    13 years ago

    Obviously you were young at the time you told the lie, but take an objective point of view to the situation now: what do you think her reaction would be if you now came out with the truth? Perhaps she's not the "close friend" you label her. I think this situation has more to do with qulaoty of a friendship than the lie itself.

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  • DrParadox
    13 years ago

    Have her read what you just posted maybe?

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    yeah, start with:"remember when i told you i lost my virginity at 14?
    hehe i lied, sorry" :D

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  • OmgPirate
    14 years ago

    Normal, and if you do tell her and she does think your psychotic then she isn't a true friend. A true friend would understand :]

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  • Zedhunter
    14 years ago

    It's normal, don't worry.
    You should try to explain the situation to her.

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  • NormalityMan
    14 years ago

    Normal. Common type of problem even. The lie just kept going and now you don't know how to fix it. Just say it plain and simple. Explain why you lied to begin with. She should understand. Hope I was helpful

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  • GreatArt
    10 years ago

    Being a slut is popular these days and innocence is shunned.

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  • uncommon1
    13 years ago

    Sorry, that should say "quality" of friendship...

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