I kissed a disabled girl out of pity

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I was on molly at a house party. Actually, almost everyone there was on molly. If you know what that's like: you feel like everything is wonderful and you love everyone.

A girl was at the party but she couldn't take molly because when she was younger she was in a car accident and her brain got damaged. The whole left side of her is uncoordinated so she limps, can't really use one of her arms very well, and that side of her face is droopy. She's a very kind girl though and I'm genuinely happy she's in this world. We've talked a few times here and there.

While on molly at this party I thought maybe it would be a nice thing to kiss her. I talked to her and she was smiling and seemed to enjoy us interacting. I asked if I could kiss her on the cheek she seemed excited and said yes. Then I asked if I could kiss her on the lips and she said yes. She seemed to enjoy herself.

Thinking about what happened makes me wonder if what I did was sorta wrong. I don't think I took advantage of her. I told myself that I was being kind because I don't think she has had many experiences of kissing. But a kiss out of pity seems kinda fucked up to me. Maybe she believed I was genuinely attracted to her and so I was being deceptive. Not only that I was thinking that she wasn't desirable.

What you did was sorta messed up	35
What you did was kind	37
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[Old Memory]

5 years ago | pl

Maybe you shouldn’t do drugs and then have doubts about your drug-induced actions.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  You're very right. I have learned my lesson
  
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McBean

5 years ago

She knew you. It was a party. It was only a few seconds. Sounds like compassionate encouragement to me. Dude, you have a good heart.

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Iszzy123

5 years ago

I say don't worry about it unless she stars giveing you the eye

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- Alduin
  
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  I mean, it'd have to be the eye on her good side.
  
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  - EnglishLad
    
    5 years ago
    
    OMG brutal hahahahahahahaha
    
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  - Acton98
    
    5 years ago
    
    Oh you're a sick fuck in the best way.
    
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    - Alduin
      
      5 years ago
      
      Why thanks
      
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Nani9796

5 years ago

All depends of how the girl feels about it

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Nickvey

5 years ago

if she is not desirable dont do shit like that.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  5 years ago
  
  Not the OP, but I think what you say is harsh, but true.
  
  Faking that you have feelings for someone only ends in trouble for you, and pain for the person you pretended to like.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    5 years ago
    
    I don't think she saw it as genuine romantic interest. Actually I think she saw it as random molly affection
    
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RoseIsabella

5 years ago

I can honestly see your point of both sides of the issue. I feel like the girl is the only person who can truly say whether it was nice or kinda messed up would be the girl you kissed.

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- thighlicker1
  
  5 years ago
  
  you should kiss her out of love for your fellow ladies.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  What do you lean more towards thinking?
  
  I will also add that the house is a very 'free love' mentality. She lives there along with 60 other college students. Although she's mentally handicapped I suspect she knew that the kiss was sorta meant nothing.
  
  I also want to ask: should I feel guilty given that I was on an intense drug? I don't think it really reflects on my character and more so on the drug I guess.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    I honestly don't know.
    
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  - BleedingPain
    
    5 years ago
    
    What it “free love” ? Or was it “molly love” ?
    
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- nikkiclaire
  
  5 years ago
  
  Any updates Rose??
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    Well, I'm coming in the home stretch, because I've got approximately eight hours until my appointment. I've been kinda bad, because I've been sleeping and moping a lot since I got the phone call to come back in on Friday morning.
    
    I'm so grateful for you, and the rest of the people here on Is It Normal! I figure if worse comes to worst, and I end up with breast cancer at least I have this online community. I'm also grateful for my feline friend who's always by my side.
    
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    - BleedingPain
      
      5 years ago
      
      :O no cancer! Hope the kitty and you stay well.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        Thanks, BleedingPain! 😊
        
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        BleedingPain
        
        5 years ago
        
        My mom and aunt both had re-occuring breast cancer so I know how sucky it is.
        
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    - dirtybirdy
      
      5 years ago
      
      Good grief, rosie :( I hope you're ok
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        Yes, I just got my second mammogram and an ultrasound on my right breast. I talked to the doctor, and they said it's not cancer, but it was really scary. I still have to go back in six months for another mammogram and ultrasound, but I'm so glad it appears to be benign so far.
        
        Thanks for your well wishes, Birdy! PAWS UP! (((Hugs)))
        😊
        
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      5 years ago
      
      I'm weird but I love you. Hope it all turns out all right.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        Thanks!😊
        
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    - nikkiclaire
      
      5 years ago
      
      Hang in there. I am sending prayers for you.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        Thanks!
        
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    - nikkiclaire
      
      5 years ago
      
      We love you rose 😙😍
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        I love ya'll too.😄
        
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    - e51pegasi
      
      5 years ago
      
      Good luck Rose.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        Thanks!
        
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        paramore93
        
        5 years ago
        
        Here's a thing
        https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=me-riKPpLck
        Hope all is good :)
        
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MangoTango

5 years ago

Sounds like you and her were *in the moment*. So, let it be. It was fun. Leave it be. Why does everything have to be more complicated than that?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Yeah I wish I could not think about it
  
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horny_simpletons

5 years ago

If she appreciated it then it's fine. But most human beings want to be treated as such, rather than wanting to be pitied.

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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

This makes me horny

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Hydra75

5 years ago

If she was sober, consenting, and everything about what actually happened was legal, it is morally justified.

If anything, she was probably taking advantage of you. So, unless you have a problem with it, I see nothing amiss here. A pity kiss is okay if the girl wants it anyway (hopefully she knew it was out of pity).

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lordofopinions

5 years ago

I honestly believe you were being kind. Some say you weren't and that you were taking advantage. You did ask and she said yes so how is that taking advantage? I thought it was very cool of you to do that.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Appreciate it
  
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_confused_

5 years ago

Ok, imagine her reaction if she knew why you kissed her.. dude, just don't do stuff like this

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amg1028

5 years ago

Messed up but maybe she was smart and could tell you were on drugs and knew it was the drugs talking, so she thought what the hell.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Agreed
  
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BleedingPain

5 years ago

Don’t do drugs! Stay in school kids.

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bigbudchonga

5 years ago

Dude I've been on ecstacy a lottttt. This was nice of you, you didn't do anything bad at all. Just never tell her you did it out of pitty, that would crush her. Hopefully she doesn't think you really like her otherwise this oculd end up as a bad thing, but if she doesn't think that then you've brought happiness into the world without it hurting anyone. Good karma for you.

Also dude I know this is off topic but I took shit loads of MDXX substances and it really fucked me up. They're generally really safe tbh, but just whatever you do, don't do it within like a month of doing it before. A you don't get high and B it fucks you up if you keep doing it after doing it recently. Also benzos are really good for the comedown, and if your comedown becomes worse than the high you really need to stop.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
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  Thanks for writing all this out. Appreciate it
  
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Gratefull88

5 years ago

Did she seem happy afterwards?
Were you happy afterwards?
You didn't exchange phone numbers or anything.
I honestly believe you gave that girl a small dose of happiness, and you should leave it at that Molly or not.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  No exchanging of numbers
  
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CuntLitie

5 years ago

Its good, you cared for her it will make her self esteem higher. Don't do drugs though

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BrokenDisc

5 years ago

I believe you had good intentions and that they were coming from a good place, but I think it was wrong to do from an ethical standpoint. What if it meant more to her than it did to you? The fact that it was a one-time thing could cause her to feel deceived and maybe even break her heart. On the other hand...if she is on the same page as you, then no harm done.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  I think she was on the same page
  
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Uniquegirl54

5 years ago

What you did was kind of bad. But you can talk to her and tell her that it was a mistake.

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- thighlicker1
  
  5 years ago
  
  to tell her it was a mistake would make her feel much worse.
  
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Babygirl17

5 years ago

DDD. That was messed up man!

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Pumpurrnickel

5 years ago

Depends on if she thought you liked her, which is what you mentioned. Your intentions were good, but you still shouldn't kiss random people like that.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Really doubt she thought that. I left out a lot of details in the story actually
  
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  - Staronthehill
    
    5 years ago
    
    If that was me it would put a smile on ny face dont worrie about it😊
    
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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

You did a good thing.

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