I kinda miss her?

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She was sweet and needy and beautiful and now I miss her. The thing is that when we were together it was kind of toxic. She would take and take and take and never give. It sucked for me. She was extremely depressed though so I did it for her. She moved on right after we broke up though. Idk why but I miss her. When we first got together I quoted Blink-182's I Miss You (which is kinda ironic now) "We could live like jack and sally" and so she nicknamed me Ghosty. Now it just makes me sad when I see her posting pictures of herself and talking to her new boyfriend. I haven't listened to that song since we broke up and that used to be one of my favorites. I guess it has to do with her being my first girlfriend. Idk. Has this happened to anyone?

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  • Whatintarnation
    6 years ago

    Gotta cut her out of your life completely. Only way you'll move on. It hurts and sucks but eventually you find someone new. Takes time.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Really depressed people can be a handful. It's important that the depressed person is getting treatment for his or her condition which usually means therapy, but can also mean medication. Also it's not uncommon for the person suffering from depression to have other co-occurring mental health issues such as anxiety, insomnia, a mood disorder, or even a personality disorder.

    I'm sorry that it didn't work out. It sounds like her depression and neediness was sucking you dry in a way. I can't speak for your ex, but it's possible that the reason she moved on so quickly was probably as a means of self medicating. Some people have a very hard time being alone.

    I don't know what type of person either of ya'll are, but if you are a reasonably decent and kind person then give yourself a hug and a pat on the back for that.

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  • fakeaccount4
    6 years ago

    Yep almost exact same happened to me but genders the other way around and he hasn't moved on neither have I really, only trying to trick myself so i can get through the next couple months, and i can't hear some types of music like that without thinking of him, there is one specific artist I'm not even a big fan of but can't even listen to without crying, simply because he sent me some songs of theirs straight before what lead to break up, and they were so similar

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I wanna cry sometimes but sometimes I'm over it. Sometimes I'm mad at her. Sometimes I'm happy about it. Sometimes I feel relieved. But it seems like she doesn't care. Idk why I can't just fucking get over it. We broke up right before last christmas.

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      • fakeaccount4
        6 years ago

        Same here. like yours, this person was extremely needy / depressed and I was always giving, even when they couldn't bother to do the same for me. I don't even know if it's that they didn't care, but were just very emotionally challenged to where they couldn't understand much past their own feelings.

        Do you at least have other friends, school, a job, etc to help keep your mind off it? or maybe try some new hobbies now that you're free? Could you possibly just block her on everything, at least until you're completely over it?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Yeah. I have friends and hobbies. We really don't talk much anymore anyways. I try not to go on insta because she is always gushing over he bf there. So I do try. I have been. She hasn't been on my mind but recently she just was.

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  • Seahawksfan56
    6 years ago

    Don't be hard on yourself for feeling the way you do. Time will go on and life goes on. Allow yourself to be sad for now, and know that some day it will be the last thing on your mind. Know that love is real and some day you will have it. Usually people go about it the opposite way after a breakup. "I'm not sad, love is fake, there's nothing for me out there." that's way more harmful and just not true.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Idk. Thank you though. I'm good just taking it as it is ya know. It just wasn't meant to be.

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  • NormalIsAsNormalDoes
    6 years ago

    Hello there
    The angel from my nightmare
    The shadow in the background of the morgue
    The unsuspecting victim
    Of darkness in the valley
    We can live like Jack and Sally if we want
    Where you can always find me
    And we'll have Halloween on Christmas
    And in the night we'll wish this never ends
    We'll wish this never ends

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      <3

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      • NormalIsAsNormalDoes
        6 years ago

        I think about my ex while listening to that song too. We used to listen to it together

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