I keep thinking my mum is going to die

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Hi I’m 28 years old, 2 years ago I lost my Nan, she brought me up ever since I can remember, since around 2-3 years old, she took me to my first day of school she did everything for me growing up my mum was in and out of my life she was a good mum but my Nan was more of a mum to me she was like a mum and dad in one person suddenly she got old and frail from kidney disease it was a big shock to me she ended up in a hospital bed at home so we had to care for her towards the end of her life and when she died I was in shock I couldn’t believe it such a big part of my life was gone she looked after everyone and now she has gone my mum has stepped up and become a mother I should of had I just keep getting a fear she is going to die it’s the worst feeling in the world I dunno how i will cope or live if she dies I’m not close with any of my family since my Nan died everyone went there separate ways my nans house was like the go to place everyone went now she’s gone everyone has gone and got on with there lives I just feel like all I have now is the memories and I just think about all the times we had at her house with the full family there and now they ain’t I just feel like it was another life and I can’t get over it it makes me so sad I dunno what to do sorry about the punctuation I’m not right good

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  • FancyKraken
    4 years ago

    I know how you feel. I constantly have intrusive thoughts that my parents are gonna die suddenly because my Mom HATES doctors and my Dad has Diabetes and eats like shit with a beer gut. Sometimes certain sounds can trigger the intrusive thoughts too!

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    It's clear that, two years on from your grandmother's death, you're still grieving for her. Since she was such a central part of your life and that of your family for so long, that's understandable. It's also logical that losing her would lead to you fearing that you're also going to lose your mother soon. Also, losing a close relative often leads to people thinking about their own mortality seriously for the first time, and that idea can be difficult to deal with.

    Everyone grieves in their own way and there is no set schedule for getting through the process, accepting the loss and moving on. Grief is natural, but it becomes a problem when you get locked into grieving and can't move forward with your own life. Bereavement can also lead to clinical depression, and that can be a huge problem too.

    Your language suggests you're British. If you do live in the UK, I'd suggest you check out Cruse Bereavement Care, a charity that helps people who are grieving. If you live elsewhere, there might be a similar organisation you could contact.

    https://www.cruse.org.uk/get-help/local-services

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  • bbrown95
    4 years ago

    It's normal, especially after you suddenly lost your Nan. It is only natural for you to fear suddenly and unexpectedly losing your mom, too.

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