wow they'd rather walk away than be friend zoned? they need to learn to get over it.... youre not gonna fuck every girl you get along with so just accept that information now. this happens to girls ALL the time and at the end of the day we stick around because the vibes are too good to just walk away from. why do guys need that confirmation that someone likes them? like just because a girl doesnt feel the exact same as you doesnt make leaving her a rational action. like use ur brain thats a dick move. just because a girl doesnt wanna fuck you doesnt mean she doesnt like being around you
You do realize how incredibly selfish that mentality is, right? I know that if someone had such a mentality in the first place that as a friend alone I wouldn't be interested, even if I didn't have feelings for such a person.
"They need to learn to get over it". I'm often seen as a sociopath, psychopath, and so on, but it amazes how much empathy I have for people more than others when it comes to human emotion.
It's a "constant reminder", so while you are involved with the "constant reminder" of what you feel, there is very, very little chance of getting over it. This is why they should leave the friendzone and the relationship with person completely, and the friend should understand if they are a good enough friend and care about the person.
You would have someone you deem a friend in a position where they are emotionally taunted of things they want but can never have? That's not a friend.
"Youre not gonna fuck every girl you get along with so just accept that information now."
How ignorant a lot of girls are on this subject. You think that the issue is that they can't just "fuck" the person they like that is the problem? It isn't, men, you know, like humans, have emotions. The reason why it is painful is because of the "emotions" not the "Oh, I can't fuck her". Girls tend to forget that men are human on this topic.
"This happens to girls ALL the time and at the end of the day we stick around because the vibes are too good to just walk away from."
I know it does, I have friendzoned more than my fair share of female friends, and I still extend my opinion for them in that situation. If it is too hard for them to be friends with a guy when they want more, then they should leave the friendship if it's too much for them to bare.
""hy do guys need that confirmation that someone likes them? like just because a girl doesnt feel the exact same as you doesnt make leaving her a rational action."
Guys that like a girl more than a friend need to know, aswell as gals, how far the relationship can go, because if they know it is limited, well then they can end the friendship if they cannot endure the emotional pain, that way they are not in a continual form of pain within the friendship, they know where they stand and are not comfortable with it.
It does make it rational, infact staying in a situation where you are in emotional pain and you know you will be staying in that state within the friendship would be completely irrational, not rational.
You put your hand over a naked flame and you move it away when you know it hurts, you don't keep your hand there.
"like use ur brain thats a dick move. just because a girl doesnt wanna fuck you doesnt mean she doesnt like being around you."
It is using your brain. You think that a friend should stay in a position where they are in emotional pain and you gain a limited companionship that is the reason for their pain. You are being incredibly selfish if you think that someone should remain in a relationship that is emotionally hurting them simply because "you" want that friend in your life regardless of how it effects them.
Again, you are thinking the only reason a guy would leave the friendzone is because he can't fuck you. Men are human, men have emotions. The reason isn't because he just wants to "fuck you", the reason is because he "likes" you more than a friend.
"Doesn't mean she doesn't like being around you". Well, tough titties. Just because "she" likes being around a guy (even if by doing so is hurting him with the painful reminder) does not mean he is an asshole for knowing the limits of the relationship and thinks it will just hurt him to have any connection with the girl.
I want OP and the rest of the female population who thinks like this to read this comment and truly understand what its like to be a guy. Everything he said is correct and believe it or not, guys have feelings too. It is not simply about sex all the time, sometimes after spending a while with a female, its highly possible that this guy will develop feelings and just like females do, what is the proper way to handle this? You bring up your emotions and hope for the best. When this doesn't happen the way you want, its very disappointing, especially if said girl starts mentioning other guys of interest to the guy she turned down just because he is only a "friend", not realizing how the guy feels.
I know this because it has happened to me and sometimes you aren't trying to like someone, it just naturally happens, females understand this much right? Best female friend I had real feelings for turns me down, later down the line says "Theres this guy I met in class that I've been thinking about..", seriously? Don't tell me that isn't rude, it says "You did not interest me but I'm going to let you know who did". Some females should realize this and not stay in the negative generalization that guys lack emotions.
well this post WAS just about sex. I was asking why is it when I freshly start to get along with someone they all of a sudden quickly try to get in my pants, then when I say no they leave. I'm not talking about long lasting crushes on girls that boys are forever reminded of having. Chill y'all. I never said boys don't have feelings... we're obviously just talking about 2 different scenarios..
Your post did not mention natural feelings, it put all guys in the same group whether you were trying to or not. Any guy you come across who acts friendly and then jets when he finds out he can't get in those pants is bad, yes. Some females do this same thing too though as it has happened to me. If you're only talking about those types of guys then at least specify your knowledge of not all guys being like that, also, what is there to complain about? They, just like the females like this, are doing you a favor by leaving and the friends will stay, no big deal. Its a thing because some people have ulterior motives and its something you just brush off and don't worry about. Your story made sense but you're going to have to use words that don't lump everyone together and is clear in your target, not driven by disgust. Try reading over it yourself and see if you can find any indication of "I know all guys aren't like this but some do this", in which I wouldn't have responded like that.
It was interesting reading this point of view, but as a man with many attractive female friends, I understand why the OP is frusterated because it seems that most humans in general are over sensitive about not getting what they want.
I never will understand why people get upset about these things so easily.
Oh my god I'm not talking about boys who have FEELINGS for me I'm talking about boys who literally just met me that I have a good connection with and suddenly want to fuck and when I say no they leave. Jesus Christ....
Well, if you connect with people so easily from a short period of time (you imply it happens more than once), then I would assume there isn't much deeper to someone like that...
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wow they'd rather walk away than be friend zoned? they need to learn to get over it.... youre not gonna fuck every girl you get along with so just accept that information now. this happens to girls ALL the time and at the end of the day we stick around because the vibes are too good to just walk away from. why do guys need that confirmation that someone likes them? like just because a girl doesnt feel the exact same as you doesnt make leaving her a rational action. like use ur brain thats a dick move. just because a girl doesnt wanna fuck you doesnt mean she doesnt like being around you
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You do realize how incredibly selfish that mentality is, right? I know that if someone had such a mentality in the first place that as a friend alone I wouldn't be interested, even if I didn't have feelings for such a person.
"They need to learn to get over it". I'm often seen as a sociopath, psychopath, and so on, but it amazes how much empathy I have for people more than others when it comes to human emotion.
It's a "constant reminder", so while you are involved with the "constant reminder" of what you feel, there is very, very little chance of getting over it. This is why they should leave the friendzone and the relationship with person completely, and the friend should understand if they are a good enough friend and care about the person.
You would have someone you deem a friend in a position where they are emotionally taunted of things they want but can never have? That's not a friend.
"Youre not gonna fuck every girl you get along with so just accept that information now."
How ignorant a lot of girls are on this subject. You think that the issue is that they can't just "fuck" the person they like that is the problem? It isn't, men, you know, like humans, have emotions. The reason why it is painful is because of the "emotions" not the "Oh, I can't fuck her". Girls tend to forget that men are human on this topic.
"This happens to girls ALL the time and at the end of the day we stick around because the vibes are too good to just walk away from."
I know it does, I have friendzoned more than my fair share of female friends, and I still extend my opinion for them in that situation. If it is too hard for them to be friends with a guy when they want more, then they should leave the friendship if it's too much for them to bare.
""hy do guys need that confirmation that someone likes them? like just because a girl doesnt feel the exact same as you doesnt make leaving her a rational action."
Guys that like a girl more than a friend need to know, aswell as gals, how far the relationship can go, because if they know it is limited, well then they can end the friendship if they cannot endure the emotional pain, that way they are not in a continual form of pain within the friendship, they know where they stand and are not comfortable with it.
It does make it rational, infact staying in a situation where you are in emotional pain and you know you will be staying in that state within the friendship would be completely irrational, not rational.
You put your hand over a naked flame and you move it away when you know it hurts, you don't keep your hand there.
"like use ur brain thats a dick move. just because a girl doesnt wanna fuck you doesnt mean she doesnt like being around you."
It is using your brain. You think that a friend should stay in a position where they are in emotional pain and you gain a limited companionship that is the reason for their pain. You are being incredibly selfish if you think that someone should remain in a relationship that is emotionally hurting them simply because "you" want that friend in your life regardless of how it effects them.
Again, you are thinking the only reason a guy would leave the friendzone is because he can't fuck you. Men are human, men have emotions. The reason isn't because he just wants to "fuck you", the reason is because he "likes" you more than a friend.
"Doesn't mean she doesn't like being around you". Well, tough titties. Just because "she" likes being around a guy (even if by doing so is hurting him with the painful reminder) does not mean he is an asshole for knowing the limits of the relationship and thinks it will just hurt him to have any connection with the girl.
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I want OP and the rest of the female population who thinks like this to read this comment and truly understand what its like to be a guy. Everything he said is correct and believe it or not, guys have feelings too. It is not simply about sex all the time, sometimes after spending a while with a female, its highly possible that this guy will develop feelings and just like females do, what is the proper way to handle this? You bring up your emotions and hope for the best. When this doesn't happen the way you want, its very disappointing, especially if said girl starts mentioning other guys of interest to the guy she turned down just because he is only a "friend", not realizing how the guy feels.
I know this because it has happened to me and sometimes you aren't trying to like someone, it just naturally happens, females understand this much right? Best female friend I had real feelings for turns me down, later down the line says "Theres this guy I met in class that I've been thinking about..", seriously? Don't tell me that isn't rude, it says "You did not interest me but I'm going to let you know who did". Some females should realize this and not stay in the negative generalization that guys lack emotions.
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well this post WAS just about sex. I was asking why is it when I freshly start to get along with someone they all of a sudden quickly try to get in my pants, then when I say no they leave. I'm not talking about long lasting crushes on girls that boys are forever reminded of having. Chill y'all. I never said boys don't have feelings... we're obviously just talking about 2 different scenarios..
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Your post did not mention natural feelings, it put all guys in the same group whether you were trying to or not. Any guy you come across who acts friendly and then jets when he finds out he can't get in those pants is bad, yes. Some females do this same thing too though as it has happened to me. If you're only talking about those types of guys then at least specify your knowledge of not all guys being like that, also, what is there to complain about? They, just like the females like this, are doing you a favor by leaving and the friends will stay, no big deal. Its a thing because some people have ulterior motives and its something you just brush off and don't worry about. Your story made sense but you're going to have to use words that don't lump everyone together and is clear in your target, not driven by disgust. Try reading over it yourself and see if you can find any indication of "I know all guys aren't like this but some do this", in which I wouldn't have responded like that.
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the way i typed this isn't too big of a concern to me. if it doesn't apply to you then it shouldn't be a problem
It was interesting reading this point of view, but as a man with many attractive female friends, I understand why the OP is frusterated because it seems that most humans in general are over sensitive about not getting what they want.
I never will understand why people get upset about these things so easily.
Oh my god I'm not talking about boys who have FEELINGS for me I'm talking about boys who literally just met me that I have a good connection with and suddenly want to fuck and when I say no they leave. Jesus Christ....
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If you have "Good connections" with people you just met, then you are a bit bland, don't you think?
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How did you form that assumption?
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Well, if you connect with people so easily from a short period of time (you imply it happens more than once), then I would assume there isn't much deeper to someone like that...
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that's a weird way of thinking. I'd think if someone was boring it'd be hard to connect in a short period of time... but ok....