Dw about it. Unless he's unable to stand up for himself shouldn't be considered harassment. So long as he can speak for himself then he can tell you to stop. If you carry on after he tells you to stop then that's the point where it should be classed as harassment.
It seems like you like him and in a coy, immature way, and are showing him that. The world's just in a state of outrage where you have to put a check on basic human interactions. It just sounds like playful fun tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if this actually brightens his day.
What do you think I should do then? I feel like I should apologize but like he's never asked me to stop or anything and I don't want to build a wall between us. I'm definitly open to suggestions. Honestly please give some suggestions
I know I get your point but all the same if I'm making him uncomfertable I need to stop for both our sakes. Tbh I would give most my co workers hugs and have even offered but they have actually said no and the like. But not him he either scowls at me or smiles.
Tbf dude I might have been a bit hasty. You should probably stop, given the current political climate, but I really don't think you should beat yourself up about it. It just sounds like you're playful with physical contact. (Which seems to be the healthy, natural, and none repressed way to live.)
I would stop if OP actually never got to hug him like they said. Apparently just kept offering in a joking matter, but no hugs?
And he's a married man, just respect his boundaries and relationship with his wife.
I've seen something similar fuck up so much in one of my workplaces with someones girlfriend. Haha we had to let someone go for a bit but rehired them after a written apology. (Also they had too many minor strikes)
And other co-workers might start making more comments and not just the one about "he might report you to HR". Might get messier and petty, and that make work hell.
It's a workplace, just work lol. And have a little fun but be professional as well.
Yea never gotten it.. almost did once but got called off to help someone in footwear and he left since we both opened. Stupid shoe shoppers.. Yea that's definitly not good. Apologize I must. Fuck I hate this wasn't even being pervy. I hate these rules but I'm glad there in place it could be dangerous to work otherwise
Yeah don't risk it, you'd be surprised what a bosses wife can do. Hugs are close intimate things and can be inappropriate sometimes even if it's not a sexual thing. Remember Vic lost his job from one.
Also just look for a single man, nothing good gonna come from someone who's already married. Since sounds like you have a crush on him.
Trust me I know, I just have the bad habbit of crushing on guys that are taken and junk. I wouldn't ever make a move on him but god damn I do have a crush on him. I'll definitly lay off the hugs unless he propositions me for one. So not gonna say no to that. Found out the coworker who said that was just saying it to be a divk and freak me out. Probs a good thing he did though
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Dw about it. Unless he's unable to stand up for himself shouldn't be considered harassment. So long as he can speak for himself then he can tell you to stop. If you carry on after he tells you to stop then that's the point where it should be classed as harassment.
It seems like you like him and in a coy, immature way, and are showing him that. The world's just in a state of outrage where you have to put a check on basic human interactions. It just sounds like playful fun tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if this actually brightens his day.
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What do you think I should do then? I feel like I should apologize but like he's never asked me to stop or anything and I don't want to build a wall between us. I'm definitly open to suggestions. Honestly please give some suggestions
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Unless he's given off signals for you to stop then I'd continue doing it. Don't feel bad just because society tells you to.
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I know I get your point but all the same if I'm making him uncomfertable I need to stop for both our sakes. Tbh I would give most my co workers hugs and have even offered but they have actually said no and the like. But not him he either scowls at me or smiles.
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Tbf dude I might have been a bit hasty. You should probably stop, given the current political climate, but I really don't think you should beat yourself up about it. It just sounds like you're playful with physical contact. (Which seems to be the healthy, natural, and none repressed way to live.)
I would stop if OP actually never got to hug him like they said. Apparently just kept offering in a joking matter, but no hugs?
And he's a married man, just respect his boundaries and relationship with his wife.
I've seen something similar fuck up so much in one of my workplaces with someones girlfriend. Haha we had to let someone go for a bit but rehired them after a written apology. (Also they had too many minor strikes)
And other co-workers might start making more comments and not just the one about "he might report you to HR". Might get messier and petty, and that make work hell.
It's a workplace, just work lol. And have a little fun but be professional as well.
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Yea never gotten it.. almost did once but got called off to help someone in footwear and he left since we both opened. Stupid shoe shoppers.. Yea that's definitly not good. Apologize I must. Fuck I hate this wasn't even being pervy. I hate these rules but I'm glad there in place it could be dangerous to work otherwise
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Yeah don't risk it, you'd be surprised what a bosses wife can do. Hugs are close intimate things and can be inappropriate sometimes even if it's not a sexual thing. Remember Vic lost his job from one.
Also just look for a single man, nothing good gonna come from someone who's already married. Since sounds like you have a crush on him.
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Trust me I know, I just have the bad habbit of crushing on guys that are taken and junk. I wouldn't ever make a move on him but god damn I do have a crush on him. I'll definitly lay off the hugs unless he propositions me for one. So not gonna say no to that. Found out the coworker who said that was just saying it to be a divk and freak me out. Probs a good thing he did though