I just realized I'm sexually harassing my boss

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  • IrishPotato
    4 years ago | pl

    Stop hugging people you're not close with for starters. It's fucking weird.

    I remember this one time me and a buddy were visiting a female friend of ours and she had another female friend right, cute girl, pretty perky and really talkative.

    I didn't really know her though, and after talking for like 5 minutes she wanted a hug from both of us and I thought it was kind of weird and so did my mate.

    She took it really personal, apparently she wasn't really used to people not going along with it.

    Honestly at this point that moment I wasn't such a big deal, but hugging strangers or co workers is weird as heck.

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    • SwickDinging
      4 years ago | pl

      Sometimes I hug people I don't know well but I do it out of social convention. For example a friend of mine took me over to her parent's house recently and they made me dinner and were really nice, so when I said bye I hugged them both. I felt like it was appropriate because they are the same age as my parents. I don't know if that's weird but it made sense to me at the time.

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      • curious-bunny
        4 years ago | pl

        Yea I fully understand. Hugs arnt weird there normal comforting things and junk.

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    • curious-bunny
      4 years ago | pl

      I never hugged him! Just offered! I've never once touched him. Where I'm from hugging is normal.. when people are down I was raised to offer a hug and junk. You think I'm ok with any of this!? Now its gonna be in my mind for a week before I can apologize, I dont care about whether or not I'll get reported I just don't want him or anyone to be uncomfertable.

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      • Ellenna
        4 years ago | pl

        If you had no sexual motives, then you were just being unprofessional and probably annoying, that's not sexual harassment.

        Stop obsessing about it but be aware he may have interpreted your behavior as a sexual come on.

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        • curious-bunny
          4 years ago | pl

          Hmm good point. Thanks for the advice, either way a apology seems needed, it's nice to hear it's not quite sexual harassment! Huge relief

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          • Ellenna
            4 years ago | pl

            Just don't make a big deal out of it when you apologise, be low key and brief and just let it blow over and don't beat yourself up about it. You sound young: it's ok to make mistakes and learn from them.

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            • curious-bunny
              4 years ago | pl

              Yea your right! I've been planning on brining cupcakes for my co workers soon so when I work with him next sounds like the perfect time so i can be like soo yea cupcake?

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      • IrishPotato
        4 years ago | pl

        To avoid this in the future, don't be like that. Be professional.

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        • curious-bunny
          4 years ago | pl

          I definitly will be, I always have been in the past. I'm just to damn friendly uhg. Yea I'm definitly gonna be way more professional from now on

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