Here's the real issue. You can't trust her, because she's known for living a double life and making a game out of it. You feel as though this marriage is just another one of her double life games, where she's an innocent wife by day, and a mistress by night/behind closed doors. It probably isn't, and she's trying to change; but I can see why you're suspicious.
In my opinion, I find the abortion odd as well. Normally, if children were agreed upon prior, a new baby after getting married is super welcomed, and it's strange she would want to abort the first child you two had together if it were yours. However, since the baby is dead, we'll never know for sure who the father was.
Talk to her, but gather your thoughts and calm down before you do. Her past doesn't matter unless she lied about it to you directly (i.e. "I'm a virgin!"). Talk to her about the abortion and why she wanted to have it. Ask her to be honest about whether the baby was yours or not, among other things.
I don't know if it was my baby or not but looking back, I'm glad she did have an abortion because she was heavy on Valium and some other pills...something else I found out. When we got married she must have had a few hundred Valium and some other Sedative Hypnotic pills she used to take everyday. I'm sure the baby was being harmed and probably would have been born with problems.
Like I said, she is real good at playing the "I'm a good girl" role. If you saw her, met her and knew her for years, you would have no idea. In fact she even told me her coworkers and friends don't even know the 'real' her...she told me that. But at the time I was just thinking oh ok, so you like to be private I guess.
She is like the QUEEN manipulator. And all this is not even the half of it.
You mean like getting an infection because she let her dog lick her after we had sex?
Or sending a male coworker texts with kissing emoji?
Or talking on the phone with and being hounded by another male coworker who wants to take her to the Hotel?
A little, I guess.
I just found out my wife was the biggest slut
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Here's the real issue. You can't trust her, because she's known for living a double life and making a game out of it. You feel as though this marriage is just another one of her double life games, where she's an innocent wife by day, and a mistress by night/behind closed doors. It probably isn't, and she's trying to change; but I can see why you're suspicious.
In my opinion, I find the abortion odd as well. Normally, if children were agreed upon prior, a new baby after getting married is super welcomed, and it's strange she would want to abort the first child you two had together if it were yours. However, since the baby is dead, we'll never know for sure who the father was.
Talk to her, but gather your thoughts and calm down before you do. Her past doesn't matter unless she lied about it to you directly (i.e. "I'm a virgin!"). Talk to her about the abortion and why she wanted to have it. Ask her to be honest about whether the baby was yours or not, among other things.
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I don't know if it was my baby or not but looking back, I'm glad she did have an abortion because she was heavy on Valium and some other pills...something else I found out. When we got married she must have had a few hundred Valium and some other Sedative Hypnotic pills she used to take everyday. I'm sure the baby was being harmed and probably would have been born with problems.
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Damn dude, why did you marry this chick?
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Like I said, she is real good at playing the "I'm a good girl" role. If you saw her, met her and knew her for years, you would have no idea. In fact she even told me her coworkers and friends don't even know the 'real' her...she told me that. But at the time I was just thinking oh ok, so you like to be private I guess.
She is like the QUEEN manipulator. And all this is not even the half of it.
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That I'd definitely a red flag! It's not normal to live a double life, and claim that your friends don't even know you.
So has she done anything recent that could be suspicious? Is she off the drugs? What's the current situation?
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You mean like getting an infection because she let her dog lick her after we had sex?
Or sending a male coworker texts with kissing emoji?
Or talking on the phone with and being hounded by another male coworker who wants to take her to the Hotel?
A little, I guess.
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Divorce. Gather evidence of her infidelity, get a lawyer and divorce the shit out of her; take the house, the dog, the goldfish, everything.